Business Women Success

Getting What You Want

2009-02-18T01:54:00.000-08:00

The Dalai Lama said, “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”

Word’s of wisdom from someone with a great deal of clarity about life.

Take note of what the quote says. Sometimes we get what we wish for and it’s actually something we would rather not have.

This really goes back to “what we focus on expands.” Remember to check your thinking to make sure it’s positive. Everything is about energy so if you want to attract prosperity and abundance it’s important to put positive energy out into the Universe.

I can't seem to make it perfect!

2009-02-11T01:31:00.000-08:00

How often have you heard someone say “I can’t seem to make it perfect!” Or a client say “it’s not perfect so I can’t sell it yet.”

Nothing is perfect in life and the more you attempt to make it so, the less perfect it usually becomes.

If you’re in business and you write articles, create products or want to write a book and think that unless it’s perfect you can’t do it, please put that thinking on the shelf.

If I had waited until I thought my book “The Astonishing Power of You” was absolutely perfect which is why I dithered about it for so long, I would never have published it and it would never have been on Amazon’s best seller list. God never meant for us to be or do things perfectly, just to be authentic and to get it done.

If there’s something you want to do, just do it. Better not to be perfect than to have regrets that you didn’t get it done.

Focus on What YOU Want

2009-02-04T11:28:00.000-08:00

Usually I suggest to clients that they focus on what they do want and not on what they don’t want however although it’s important to know what you do want it’s also important to know what you don’t want in life/business.

Knowing this clearly is very important to your standing and values in life.

Do you have clearly defined boundaries?
Do you come from a place of integrity? If you say you’re going to be somewhere or do something do you follow through?
Are you taking care of yourself or do you say yes to everyone else even when you want to say no?
Do you take responsibility when something happens that could have been avoided or do you throw it back on the other person and get defensive?
Are you acting instead of re-acting to life in general?

If you can honestly, without fudging say yes to all of the above then you and your values are in a great place. If you say no to any of them you probably still have some work to do and you need to become more consciously aware of your behavior so you have a way to create new habits.

There are no rights or wrongs yet we can live life differently if we pay attention to those things that are not working for us and make little changes.

Do you check your bank accounts regularly?

2009-01-23T02:42:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year everyone!

My apologies for not writing for the past few weeks! The holidays got crazy, I had visitors from the UK and then I got sick. What can I say other than life sometimes gets in the way.

Then to top it off I found out I was the victim of bank fraud and someone had managed to forge checks and my signature and steal $6,000 from one of my bank accounts. It’s not even about the money because the bank puts it back however it is scary to think it’s that simple! Over a period of 24 hours they went to an out of area branch and cashed six separate checks amounting to nearly $6,000.

I found out quite by accident. A bill I had paid didn’t go through and the bank wrote and told me there wasn’t enough money in the account. I went online and checked and lo and behold there it was, or rather there it wasn’t. I usually check my accounts online at least twice weekly however with the holidays, guests and getting sick I didn’t. I learned a huge lesson and found out from the bank that every bank has this challenge 2-3 times a day.

Whether in business or personally please keep a close watch on your bank accounts. Apparently it’s easier than we might think!

I also learned that online bill pay according to my bank is less safe than paying bills by check!

Anyway I just wanted to share this with you in the hope that you will check your accounts regularly so that this doesn’t happen to you.

‘Til Next Time
Joy and Blessings

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Times Are Changing – Are YOU Ready?

2008-12-03T14:37:00.000-08:00

Things are certainly changing in the world. The US is having a recession and from what I hear things are not so great in the rest of the world either. However, having said that, this is not a time to buy into fear which is what the media would have you do!

Just because things are different doesn’t necessarily mean they are worse. Some of the worst economic times have created the most financial business success for people.

The most important thing is not to give up or give in. Don’t listen to the news constantly especially last thing before you go to bed. This will only cause stress. Remember to think as positively as possible. Read, listen to and watch positive joyful things. Check out my good friend Alexandra Watsons blog for a dose of happiness thinking. She’s the UK’s leading Happiness expert and each week shares some of her highly successful information at http://happyhelp.politicsandthecity.com Now is a great time to discover her significant secrets.

Remember you can achieve whatever you want in this life whether we’re in a recession or not. It’s just about believing in yourself and keep moving forward.

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The most important thing to remember is not to buy into fear. Just because there’s a recession doesn’t mean you have to take part. I don’t choose to, you can do this too?

‘Til Next Time
To Your success and Brilliance

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Are You Ready and Clear About What YOU Want?

2008-11-19T13:16:00.000-08:00

My grandson turned 7 this past weekend and as I watched him play basketball with his friend it was very clear that he definitely knew what it was he wanted. He wanted to score goals and that’s what he focused on doing as they ran around throwing the ball from one to the other. They didn’t think about what they didn’t want only about what they did want.

As you come into 2009 don’t focus on what you don’t want, become really clear about what it is you do want! In order to attract and manifest what you want it’s very important to know what it is. Don’t just think you know which is what a lot of people do, be really sure. Write down how you would like your ‘ideal’ life and business to look.

Create the picture in your mind, make an action plan, stay focused and keep moving forward with that picture in mind just as my grandson had the picture in his mind of shooting the ball into the goal and he scored more often than not because he knew what he was going for.

Always remember that although reaching the goal is important, it’s just as important to enjoy the journey. Don’t give up be persistent and persevere. Everything is about energy so keep your energy high. Have fun stay in the moment and know that it’s not about perfection it’s just about staying on the path and taking one step at a time.

‘Til Next Time
Happy Thanksgiving

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Are You Buying into Fear?

2008-10-15T18:18:00.000-07:00

It’s been a couple of weeks since I last posted and a lot has happened in the world since then that is creating a great deal of fear in people, especially here in the US.

Although there is definitely a recession I have chosen not to be part of it. Will it affect me yes, my retirement fund is losing money fast! Am I going to go through every day living fearfully, absolutely not!

I’m in touch with reality however, I decided I’m not buying into the frenzy that is going on.

You can either buy into the fear or let go! If you don’t have control over a situation what’s the point of spending each day being afraid of what might happen tomorrow, next week or next year. Suppose it never happens, you will have spent all that time being stressed for nothing. Catastrophic thinking not only plays with your mind, it also causes stress which is the internal response to an external event.

Take some action if you need to. Cut back if necessary. Clip coupons on and offline. Stop buying expensive Starbucks. Carpool. Do whatever you need to do, just don’t buy into fear. Check out sites like www.Thriftyfun.com, www.gasbuddy.com. You can find almost anything online these days including coupons for discounts.

Every time a fear comes up, acknowledge it and then replace it with something positive and move on. I know you might be saying easier said than done however, it really is easy to do and very simple.

Live your life fearlessly with power and don’t buy into anything you read or hear. Journalists and media have to have something to use as fodder and for now this is it. Not everything you read is true!

‘Til Next Time
Joy and Blessings

What are you attracting?

2008-09-10T01:13:00.000-07:00

About six months ago I decided to start observing the patterns and behavior of people in business to see what it is that the most successful and wealthy of them do that makes the difference between making it and struggling. I also had some very interesting conversations.

One of the most obvious things I've discovered, apart from the fact that they set specific goals, (usually written) make commitments and then take the necessary action is that they mix with successful people. This brought me back to something I heard many years ago from some hugely successful entrepreneurs. If you want to be successful make sure the people around you are successful. If you want to make money, mix with people who have money, if you want to be infused with positive energy have positive people around you, if you want to be happy mix with happy people, spiritual people and so forth.

So, my friends take a deep breathe. Close your eyes for a moment and go inside, reach deep into your own power and intuition. Just breathe and relax.
Attracting what you want in life is about energy, yours and the people around you.

Take a look around you and notice the people in your life. Do they think and talk positively? Are they living in the now? Are they truly committed to taking action to move forward? . If you're not working with clients/customers who you're truly happy to be working with, don't. If you're in a job you don't love, find one that you do or start thinking about becoming your own boss. It’s not nearly as challenging as people think.

I know that if I someone's home, car or office are a mess there's a lot more chaos going on in their head than they are willing to admit. Don't let this be you. Get real; get honest with yourself about yourself and what you are doing and tolerating in life. Allow the energy within and around you to be flowing easily so that you can attract the abundance and success you want in life in all ways.

Release any kind of poverty (lack) thinking, just let it go and know that any fear you might be holding onto is not real, it's just a thought and probably not even one you originally created.

Breathe and Relax. How are you going to live your life? Who are you going to surround yourself with?

Life is too short not to live it the way you want, remember it's about "Saying Yes to YOU."

'Til Next Time
Have a fantastic week
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Achieve What You Want In Life

2008-08-20T05:12:00.000-07:00

As I’m sure most other people have been, I’ve been watching the Olympics with awe and amazement.

Seeing these young people reach the goals they want to achieve and receiving their medals, tells us that there are many people out there who know without a doubt that it’s absolutely possible to achieve what you want in life.

Imagine being a young guy of 23 and winning 8 gold medals in one Olympics, beating all previous records or the 41 year old swimmer who won silver medals. Both very determined, with great perseverance and their efforts paid off.

Most people hit a wall and instead of finding a way to go around the wall they just stop. I’m sure these Olympians hit walls from time to time but it didn’t stop them. It doesn’t matter what area of life, if you’re not where you want to be, do something about it. Think Bigger, Expand your mind. It’s never too late, you’re never too old, or for that matter, never too young and yes you can achieve anything you want in life. I’ve proven that to myself over and over. If I can do it, you can too!

‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Productivity and Perfection

2008-08-13T03:31:00.000-07:00

My apologies for not posting last week. Many new things have been happening at The Astonishing Power of You.

One of the things I’ve been hearing on my master mind calls and various coaching calls is about productivity and perfection and strangely enough both of these go together and can really create obstacles in business and in life.

Being busy does not mean you are being productive or efficient. We can all find things to keep us busy! I know I used to do that, procrastinating big time on putting off things that were too fearful in case I would fail or in case I didn’t do something perfectly. I could keep myself busy all day and still not get much accomplished☺

Take a look at what you are doing during a day, especially in business. Do you have a good time management plan, do you use some kind of planner for your days so you know what you’re doing, when and where? If you’re in a service oriented business are you organized and focused so that your clients get what they need?

Ask yourself a question: If I keep doing things this way will I achieve the prosperity, joy and abundance I would like? Does the way I do things align with my values?

You will find a great difference in your days if you have a plan in place to stay focused and motivated. Your energy will be higher and you will attract many more positive things into your business and life.

‘Til Next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Friend or Foe?

2008-07-23T08:28:00.000-07:00

Which one are you to yourself? Here we are a little more than half way through the year. A very important year for the US and a very important year for you too! Why is that you say? How about something really simple like it’s time to check whether you are on track for the year, whether you are being your friend or are working against yourself?

This time of the year is a great time to rate your professional and/or personal life. If you use the wheel and follow the instructions you will know whether you are on track for the year with balance, success, finances, relationships and life in general.

Directions: rate yourself in each category on a scale of 1-10, with 1 the lowest at the wheel's center and 10 the highest at the outer edge. Rate yourself in terms of current satisfaction by drawing a line across from spoke to spoke.

Then answer some questions for yourself:
1. Looking at the way I rated the wheel what does my life look like? Is it balanced, am I happy with everything the way it is?
2. If this were the wheel on a car would it run smoothly?

If your life is not looking the way you want it at this half way point in the year, I encourage you to make some changes so that by the time the end of the year arrives, it looks more like the life you really want.

‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

Take Charge of Your Own Destiny

2008-07-16T08:25:00.000-07:00

Whether personally or professionally you can either be at cause and create the life you want or you can be at the effect of anything and everything that life happens to throw at you. You’d be really surprised at how many people live on the effect side of life and don’t understand why their days are not joyful and happy. It’s up to you to take charge of your own destiny.

You have the most powerful tool you will ever need in the 3” between your ears!
Namely your mind! It creates just about everything that happens to you in life.

Train your mind to CHOOSE the life you want so that any old negative messages sitting in your subconscious get zapped. It’s a bit like taking an old computer program and changing it for a new one.

Where are you focusing? What is your attitude about your life personally and/or professionally? Are you focusing on what you don’t have, lack of time, money etc.
What you focus on expands. Focus on what you do have, what you can do, what you want from life.

Start changing the way you think by becoming conscious of the words you use. The words you use will tell you how you are thinking on a subconscious level.

Use words like I can, I want to, I believe. Stop using words like try and but. How do you try and sit in a chair? You either do or you don’t. When you say but after a sentence you are immediately negating what came before it. Start using the word ‘and’ instead. Much more powerful!

Do some of these things and watch what happens in your life. Do your best to be as disciplined as possible about this. When you change your thinking, you can really change your life and there are absolutely no limits. Go for what you want. Live your life fearlessly from choice.

‘Til Next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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How Does Your World Look?

2008-07-09T08:24:00.000-07:00

Whether in your personal or professional life you want to be living a life that you really love.

Are you living the life you envisioned 5 years ago? What are you envisioning for your life and/or business 5 years from now?

The past few weeks have been very interesting and I’ve had the honor of actually connecting with a lot of people who receive my Monday Motivator and newsletter who until now I didn’t know.

I’ve had so much fun and joy talking to people who are interested in my “Say Yes to YOU” coaching programs. I’ve listened to many people talk about their goals and dreams and quite a few who up until now have not been saying yes to themselves and are ready to change their world so they can achieve their ultimate dreams.

I hope your world looks the way you really want it to, if it doesn’t I highly encourage you to do something about it. Take a firm stand and say Yes to YOU.
Your really do deserve to live each day with passion and joy.

‘Til Next time
As Always
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you’re interested in the “Say Yes to YOU coaching programs and would like more information go to http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/you.html

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Happy July 4th

2008-07-02T15:12:00.000-07:00

Hi Everyone,

I have some really wonderful new “Say Yes To YOU” Programs being launched this week and because it’s a short week something had to give so my apologies for not writing last week and for the few words this week.

What I do want to say is please remember the Law of Cause and Effect. Your life is created by the way you think, the actions you take and the Attitude you have. Take responsibility if something happens that is caused by you. Don’t get defensive or angry, own up and own it. Make each day a positive, fun experience whatever you are doing in life.

Have a wonderful July 4th and I will write more next week.

‘Til next time
As Always
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you are interested in the new programs please go to www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/you.html and you will find all the details.

Is life really like Sex and The City?

2008-06-18T01:42:00.000-07:00

Last Sunday my daughter and I took ourselves to see this very much touted movie.

What came across loud and clear in both the TV series and the movie was the story about 4 friends who stuck together through thick and thin and that part of the story was lovely and how all friendships need to be. If only the story had been more about that it would probably have been very enjoyable.

Unfortunately, although there were a couple of laughs, not only was it long and rather boring there were a few scenes that would have been better off in a porn movie. What I’m writing comes without any kind of judgment, so please don’t throw arrows at me yet!

I know many women are going to disagree with me and that’s OK, we are all entitled to our own opinions and I’d love to hear some of yours.

Are real women like these four? Is New York really a hive of very needy women?

Somehow I don’t think so!

This is really what the movie portrayed as well as friendship. In the TV series it was 4 needy women looking for love in all the wrong places. This is initially how Miranda got pregnant. Charlotte desperately wanted to be married and looked until after changing many things in her life, she actually found the ‘right’ man.

Although, it finally ended up OK, (don’t want to give away the ending if you haven’t seen it) in the TV show Carrie couldn’t detach from Big long enough to give herself the chance of someone really great loving her so she continually went in and of the relationship with Big, which would actually be considered ‘really dysfunctional.’ Poor Samantha was really the neediest of the four. Terrified of commitment, she wanted money, attention and sex and sex and sex. When someone needs that much sex to fill them up, it’s called an addiction.

I realize this is a movie and is supposed to be for entertainment however I’ve also read some of the comments that men have left on various sites and their comments about women based on this movie are not pretty. I’d hate for any teenage girl to see this movie and think this is what she has to look forward to in her 30’s and 40’s.

So, why am I writing about this in a self growth blog for women? Because it’s important! If you relate to any one of them, especially during their TV show years don’t stay stuck. I know what it’s like to be needy, to go in and out of the wrong relationships continually looking for love to fill the emptiness.

It took me 10 years of personal work to find myself. When I did, I realized there was really only one person I absolutely ‘needed’ in my life. Me!!

Would I like a man in my life? It would be very nice if he was the right man, however I’m also OK if I don’t have a man in my life. I finally fell in love with me in a very healthy way. I came to realize that I am not defined by a man, a car, money, parents, children, a house or anything I’m only defined by who I am.

That’s why I wrote this. If you have issues around relationships or with yourself please get some kind of help. Fall in love with yourself first and you will no longer make the wrong choices. You don’t have to settle just so you won’t be alone. You deserve to be loved for the beautiful woman you are. Enjoy your life, have fun, laugh with friends and treat yourself with the dignity and respect you deserve. You are a brilliant light in this world.

‘til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you live in or around the LA area on June 25th, I’m facilitating a 2 hour workshop at the Bodhi Tree on Melrose titled, “Say Yes To You” – Stop Living on the Sidelines and step into the Game of Life. 7.30p.m. – 9.30 p.m. You can throw your arrows at me then if you attendJ
For more information go to http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/yes.htm

Make yourself number one.

2008-06-09T12:39:00.000-07:00

Having spent 4 days exhibiting my best selling book at Book Expo. America it’s been a very interesting, energizing yet exhausting couple of weeks which is also the reason there was no copy for the blog last week.

The one thing that came across very clearly from talking to the dozens of people who stopped at the booth, is that women are still not totally OK with making themselves number One.

Sometimes when I first start working with clients, they find it very strange to think about putting themselves and their needs at the top of the list. Make yourself number one. Obviously not to the detriment of some one-else. However, you will be more effective, energized and productive if you take care of yourself first.

Whether you’re a working professional, a stay at home mother, work and manage a family or you are a working single mother, I highly encourage you to “Say Yes to YOU” first. Your business won’t fall apart, your family won’t go without, your house won’t collapse if it’s not perfect.

Take small steps to start. Five minutes a day to just sit quietly, light a candle, read a book, meditate or whatever it is you truly want to do with the time. After a week expand to ten minutes and so on until you are actually taking at least 30 minutes every day to just be with you.

If I had known that it was OK for me to take time for me when I had a family at home I would have saved myself many stressful days. Now, no matter what, I take at least 30 minutes a day that is set aside without any interruptions, just for me. Give it a try. You deserve it.

“til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. For those people who live in or near Los Angeles, on June 25th, I will be facilitating a 2 hour workshop ”Say Yes To You” Stop Living on the Sidelines” at the Bodhi Tree on Melrose Avenue. Space is limited. Advance reservations $20. If you are interested in attending please email info@theastonishingpowerofyou.com and you will be at the top of the list.

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Think about what you do have.

2008-05-28T10:00:00.000-07:00

I hope everyone had a really super Memorial day weekend. I don’t know what it’s like in your part of the country/world, however for all the fact that everyone here in the US is complaining about the cost of gas being more than $4 a gallon, there were cars galore on the freeway.

Although it may seem not at times, we really do have things great here in the US. As with everything else it’s about perception. Yes, gas has gone up, however in Europe they are paying the equivalent of $8 a gallon and food is twice as expensive as it is here. How about we all look again at what we do have, not at what we don’t have.

I’m off to exhibit this week at Book Expo. America which is in Los Angeles and will be there from Thursday 29th – June 1st. It should be fun, exciting and exhausting and I’m really looking forward to it. Thank god they don’t allow smoking in any of the public places in LA any more so at least the air won’t be clouded with smoke.

I have a couple of really great new hypnosis CD’s if anybody is interested in increasing their wealth, zapping negative thinking or if you do happen to smoke and would really like to stop there’s a great stop smoking CD too. Check them out at www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/hypnosis. and you will find information at the bottom of the page.

Have a great week.
‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Humility and Gratitude

2008-05-20T09:32:00.000-07:00

I recently went to an award event at which six or seven women were honored for their efforts in one area or another. The reason I’m writing about it here is that I never cease to be astounded how little has changed.

I always pay very careful attention to the words people use because it’s one of the things I do to help my clients move faster along their path.

The organizers of the event had written lovely, positive accolades about each woman based on what they had achieved which were read to the room by the MC for the day before handing out the award.

The women receiving the awards used words like, I don’t deserve this, I don’t know why I’m receiving this, I didn’t do anything my assistant did it all and one went so far as to say I don’t think I’m any of the things that have been said about me. People had nominated these women, people thought these great things about them and in a few words all that was said had been negated. I thought perhaps it was my imagination however the people sitting on either side of me noticed the same thing.

Not one said, ‘Thank you so much I’m really honored. I’m glad I was able to make a difference. I would also like to thank all the people in my business that supported me, without whom it would have been very challenging.”

There’s a difference between having humility and gratitude and coming from a place of grace because we know we deserve it. Thinking well of ourselves, being proud of ourselves is OK, it doesn’t have to come from having a big ego. Having humility doesn’t mean we have to negate ourselves. Unfortunately so many women have received the message that we have to be ‘good girls, ’ it’s not nice to think we’re great, it’s selfish, who do we think we are etc. etc. and it’s so well ingrained on an unconscious level that it takes away from what we truly deserve. Change the message; if someone says something nice or gives you a gift, you deserve it.

Please remember that when someone does something nice for you, whatever it might be, or gives you praise, the person is giving you a gift, don’t take that away from them, however much you might want to accept graciously don’t say, it’s too expensive or whatever, bite your tongue and just say thank you. The more often you do this, the easier and more natural it will become and on an unconscious level the old negative messages are replaced with positive confident beliefs.

‘Til next time
Have a wonderful week.
To Your Success and Brilliance

Women and Power

2008-05-14T09:18:00.000-07:00

Happy Mother’s day albeit a little late. If you’re a Mother it’s not just the one day that’s important, it’s how you are treated every day.

In my 67 years I’ve been through many different phases in my life, including having to find fulfillment from within and women and their power still fascinates me. We are one of the few countries who haven’t yet had a woman President. It intrigues me that here in the US, women still in many ways take second place.

Don’t gun me down for what I’m writing this week. It’s without judgment. Honesty often it hurts, yet truth is what really makes the world go round.

From the research I’ve read although women owned businesses are the fastest growing in number, we often still don’t have equality when it comes to salary. Yet, when it comes to emotions most men will tell you that they think we are by far, much stronger and more powerful than men.

It’s time that every woman said “yes to herself.” You deserve to feel powerful (not controlling) not from ego, just because you’re you. You deserve to have a family if that’s what you want while you are still young enough to do it easily.

I hear too many women saying, I have to be successful first, then I can have a family. Suddenly they are 40 and find they were so busy being successful, they forgot to have children. Being successful doesn’t make it easier to have a child it makes it a lot more expensive and unless you’re very fortunate instead of staying home and spending time with your little one during their childhood, you’re back at work paying the huge medical bills.

You deserve to have money, abundance and respect and you certainly deserve to believe in yourself. You truly can do anything you choose.

I’m being interviewed by Maureen O’Crean of Distinctively Diva on Wednesday May 14th and we will be talking about the topic “Say Yes to You – Stop Living on the Sidelines and Step into the game of Life." To register for the call you will find all the details at www.distinctivelydiva.com/index2a.html . 7p.m. Pacific time, 10p.m. Eastern.

If you live anywhere near the Los Angeles area, on June 25th, I will be presenting a two hour workshop on ‘Say Yes to You.’ I will include more about this in my blog in future issues..

That’s all I have to say for now. You were born to have prosperity and abundance, become the authentic you again and stop doubting yourself. Unless you’re being attacked by something, fear isn’t real, it’s just a thought :) Think positively and celebrate yourself.

‘til next time
Have a fantastic week
To Your Success and Brilliance

How Do You Define Yourself?

2008-05-08T09:50:00.001-07:00

Because of answers I was receiving from clients recently I asked the question “How do you define yourself?” The answers led me to write about this really important question this week. I started asking people, mainly women, around me the same question.

It saddened me to hear some of the answers I received. One woman defined herself by her husband and children, another by her level of financial success, one by being the daughter of a well known personality and so forth. Only a few women defined themselves just by being who they are.

I used to define myself by how successful I was, by a husband, by my children, education, by what other people thought of me. I didn’t realize that left me with something lacking! Obviously we are defined by many things as we go through the stages of ‘growing up.’ It never occurred to me back then that I was a person in my own right and that the only definition that really counts is being defined by who I am.

Take a look at how you define yourself. Don’t say what you think you ‘should’ or ‘must’ say, be gut honest. It’s OK if you have been defining yourself by things outside of you. Giving yourself the gift of honesty about this will allow you to grow even greater. If you have been defining yourself from outside, you can start to work on defining yourself by ‘who’ you are and the gifts you bring to the world.

You are ‘who you are’ not because someone or something made you that way but just because you’re you. A wonderful brilliant light in the world. Allow yourself to shine brightly.

Have a wonderful week.
‘til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

Play to Your Strengths!

2008-04-30T05:00:00.000-07:00

Hi Everyone,

I hope you’ve had a great April. Here we are and tomorrow is May 1st. How time flies!

I was recently asked to write an article for someone in business and after giving it some thought decided to write about how we use what we have and yet we’re often struggling to increase those parts of us that are not so strong. I thought I’d put a few lines down in the blog this week to give everyone the opportunity to focus on the strengths I’m sure you all have.

We all have strengths and weaknesses, whether in business or in life and people will more often than not attempt to bring their weakest areas up to the same level as the strengths they have. I really don’t encourage this; it’s not the best way to go!

When we focus on the areas that we consider to be our weakest, we often end up diluting our ability to play to the strengths, making it more challenging to achieve our goals and desires in life. Concentrate on playing to your strengths.

As a business and life coach it’s often my job to brainstorm with clients to find out why they are not where they want to be, whether it’s professionally or personally. I often have people do a simple exercise so they can really see what they need to concentrate on.

Take a sheet of paper and divide into two columns. Head one column: My Strengths and the other column My Weakest Areas.

Don’t ask anyone else their opinion about your strengths, it’s important to be honest with yourself, after all you know yourself better than anyone else.

When you’ve completed both lists write down how many times each day you only play to your strengths. And, how many times you hold yourself back or it takes more time to do something because you want to do it all!

One of my strengths is patience and seeing that there is a solution in any situation. One of my weaknesses is I don’t have great computer skills. I hand off everything I am not comfortable doing on the computer and focus on teaching people how to achieve what they want in life.

Once you can see these two areas fully, you have a choice. You can of course always move forward doing what you’ve always done, your path being a little rocky and perhaps even unfulfilling or you can start to really focus on all your strengths and delegate your weakest areas to others who have those characteristics as their strength. This way everyone wins.

Absolutely everything is a mindset. Every result you create in life comes from the way you think. You have a thought it creates a feeling, which creates an action that equals the result.

When we change our thinking we change our lives. Always remember change is inevitable, transformation is a choice.

Have a fantastic week. ‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Is Entitlement Important?

2008-04-16T09:31:00.001-07:00

Sometimes I write about topics that may not seem relevant to business or even to life. However entitlement can create real challenges without people even realizing. Let me first say, this is written without judgment or criticism.

What do I mean when I say entitled? The word entitle in the dictionary states that it means to have the right or claim. People who have entitlement issues are usually more self absorbed and also have more feelings of self importance making them think that they don’t have to respect other people in the same way they want to be respected. Talking the talk is not the same as walking it.

Have you ever received an email or call from someone and decided that you don’t have to reply because you don’t have time, after all you have so many more important things to do, or some kind of thinking along those lines? Are you always late for appointments and always find an excuse for being late and justify it to yourself as a ‘so what,’ everyone knows I’m always late so it’s not important?

I have learned that not returning a call or email within 24-48 hours, however busy you are, lacks integrity and also conveys lack of respect. The same applies to punctuality. Five minutes early or 5-7 minutes late is acceptable. If you are mostly 10-20 minutes late for appointments, whether it’s business or social, it conveys the message that the other person is not important and somewhere deep down you are feeling that you, for whatever reason, are entitled to act this way.

Men are often heard to say about their wife, girlfriend or partner, “she always keeps me waiting she’s never ready on time.” Why is this? Don’t tell me it’s because it takes you longer to get ready. Start earlier, you’d be surprised what a difference it makes to how the other person feels when you’re ready on time.

Many, many years ago, I would say I had entitlement issues. On some level I needed to believe that I was more important than other people so it was OK not to return a call, not to reply to a note and to be late for nearly everything. This came from a deeper feeling of not having enough self worth.

Although I’m certainly not perfect, far from it I suspect :), when someone takes the time to send me a note of appreciation for something and sometimes I receive quite a few, doesn’t matter how busy I am, I always take the time to reply personally to each one. So what if it takes an extra few minutes out of my day. People are always so delighted when they receive a thank you.

I encourage you to be honest with yourself. Do you feel that you are ‘entitled’ to be late, not reply to a call or email, that this is just who you are? Or, this is not using my time productively or effectively. That to me is a total cop-out and means that deep down you really do feel you are more important than other people. Everyone is special and everyone deserves respect. You may not agree with me, however give it a try. It certainly makes you more attractive to the Universe. Whether professionally or personally letting others feel that you respect them and that they are important, shows that you have integrity.

‘Til Next Time
To Your Success & Brilliance

What’s the real reason?

2008-04-09T10:32:00.000-07:00

What’s the real reason people don’t get where they want in life? Why do some people become really successful and some people just don’t quite make it. They get to the edge and stop, often just as they are about to achieve the success they want.

They are afraid to believe in themselves and their own ability. There’s that word fear again! You know what, the only thing you need to do is make a decision that you are not going to let that feeling hold you back. You don’t need to break a board, walk on hot coals, bunji jump or anything else if you don’t want to.

You don’t have to let fear take over and control you. Believe it or not, unless you are being stalked by a tiger, or are in other dangerous situations, fear is not even real. I know it feels real, yet it’s just a thought. It’s what we call in psychology, “false evidence appearing real.” You have the ability, the choice and power to change your thinking so that fear and doubt doesn’t stop you from achieving what you want.

Ask yourself how long you’ve been saying “I want to ………., I’m going to……… and yet you keep doing the same thing over and over. You’ve probably heard that old quote that goes something like this, “doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results will make you crazy.”

Whether it’s professional, relationships or life in general, if you’re not where you want to be, get honest with yourself. Are you holding yourself back because you’re afraid? Write down 3 successes you’ve had in life. It doesn’t matter what they are just something you consider was a success. Now, ask yourself what you were thinking and what action you took to make those things happen. If you’ve done it once, you can do it again.

You’re an incredible human being, don’t let old messages steal your dreams and don’t let fear take away your power. What’s the worst that can happen if you take a risk? What’s the best that can happen? When you answer these questions for yourself, I think you might see that nothing really catastrophic can happen if you take the leap of faith. Go for it.

To Your success and brilliance
‘til next time

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2008-04-02T12:44:00.001-07:00

The question asked that resulted in the following answer was: What would happen to your business and life if you were hit by a bus or had a personal crisis? A medical emergency? Or, needed to take time off to care for a loved one?

I didn't get hit by a bus :) However, I did have a situation that meant I had to change how I was working in my business. At the end of 2003 I found out that my Mother in the UK had cancer and I live in Los Angeles. So that my sister didn't have to carry the whole burden of taking care of the situation, I made a decision to be available whenever and however I was needed which meant putting all my goals for the next couple of years on hold.

After the first time I had to cancel a speaking engagement at the last minute because I received a call to come to London immediately, I put all speaking on hold. I explained the situation to my clients, who were very understanding and willing to work with me. When I was in London, if it was only for a week or ten days, clients sessions were sometimes put on hold or if that wasn't possible I coached via email.

I knew that if I was going to be able to effectively help and be available, for my own peace of mind, it would really be necessary to put all other aspects of my business on hold.

Although it was a challenging decision for me to make, that's what I decided to do. During 2004-2006, other than working with a few clients my business came to a stand still. When my Mother passed in 2006, I basically had to start over.

In mid-2006 I started working with a coach to get back on track. The choice I made definitely affected me financially from the stand point of not making the kind of money I had intended from my business. Although I didn't achieve what I wanted in my original time frame, things are well on track since the end of 2006 and moving forward. Everything is about choice, I decided what I 'wanted' to do, didn't let it stress me out and have never regretted the decision to spend the last 2 years of her life with my Mother.

I was very lucky to be in a place where I had another small income coming in, however had this not been the case, I would not have been able to make the choice I did.

I learned a very valuable lesson when this situation occurred. I encourage all solo-business owners to have a back up of some kind in place. There are unexpected things that happen to all of us in life at some time or another.

I think it's very important to have at least 6 months income in the bank to take care of mortgage, rent, expenses etc. should you, for any reason, need to take a break longer than a couple of weeks. Budget this into monthly savings so that it goes automatically into an emergency fund.

Depending on your business, if you have an assistant, make sure that you have enough copy written to cover absences. You need to still have a presence so that people remember who you are. Even if that means a monthly tip to stay in touch.

Everything in life is a choice so choose to have a plan in place rather than winging it.

To your success and brilliance,

Is your Life a comedy or ??

2008-03-19T15:13:00.000-07:00

Somebody recently asked me if I was to describe my life as a genre what would I say? Would it be a comedy, a grand drama perhaps, a coffee table book or……………

I’d never been asked to define my life this way. My first thought was, now that I’m where I am do I really want to know? Of course I do, that’s how we continue to learn and what an interesting way to take a look.

It took me a while to be able to relate my life to a genre and I’m sure this is going to be an ongoing process, however, I’m going to share what I already discovered and that’s what life is about. An exciting journey of discovery and perseverance.

The first 40 years of my life could certainly be called a chaotic tragic drama that was slowly unfolding. I had learned and been given every kind of negative role modeling and message I needed to live my life in a really dramatic, chaotic way.

In thinking about it more closely, if I was a fantastic writer it would probably make a fabulously interesting story, however I’m not and it would take too long so I’m just going to leave it at that. I will just say that I would hope that all children will live, learn and grow in a much healthier, loving environment than I did.

With each passing year my life became more interesting and often very challenging, yet it was also very exciting and I was learning things about myself and the world that I might never have done, if I’d lived a different kind of life. I was always hearing, “They say” and I’m still not sure who ‘they’ are. However, ‘they say’ that everything happens for a reason and today I truly believe it does.

By the time I was in my 40’s, life had really become more like an adventure comedy. Still chaotic but at least I could find humor in the situations I got into.

After being married for 25 years I was now in the unknown world of dating, overcoming who I thought I was and creating who I really was, meaning the authentic me. Going through the dating scene as you get older can definitely be made into a chaotic romantic comedy film.

Today in my 60’s, the genre I would put my life into would be an interesting humorous coffee table book, something that anyone would pick up, find something they could relate to and learn from. What I learned from doing this little exercise is that if you keep moving forward, persevere, find wonderful mentors and don’t allow fear to hold you back you can create anything in life that you want.

That’s the message I most want to convey from this. Never ever give up. It doesn’t matter how old you are, it’s never too late for anything.

I still learn every day. I still reach higher both personally and professionally. I’m much more careful who I allow into my life and I surround myself with positive thinking people. My life is an ever evolving dream that is absolutely wonderful, peaceful and happy.

I have every intention of living until I’m over 100 which means I still have nearly half my life left to live. I don’t worry about what will happen tomorrow or next week, I only know that even when it’s frustrating at times there’s always a funny side if I look and the only day that counts is the one I’m living right now. I make a point of doing or watching something each day that makes me laugh and through it all I survived, became stronger and I found my passion, teaching other women how to become all they deserve to be.

I encourage you to answer the question for yourself. However old you are at present this is a question worth answering. If you had to give your life a genre, what would it be? Be honest because if you’re not, the only person you fool is you. The answer will allow you to make new choices if you’re not where you want to be.

Whatever genre you see yourself as, you’re a brilliant light in this world, let the brilliance shine.

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Do You Focus or Fold?

2008-03-12T17:43:00.000-07:00

Everywhere I go recently it seems that someone is talking about balance and focus. I keep hearing how challenging it is to stay balanced and focused on a daily basis and I can certainly relate to that.

Because I have a home office, like so many coaches, it’s very easy to fold instead of focusing. What I mean by that is, there you are moving through your day and doing your best to get all the things done that you might have on a list. You managed to get the first thing finished and now you’re on action #2, when suddenly you think about something completely different and before you know it, you’ve totally folded what you’re in the midst of, it’s now on the shelf and you’re moving over to the next thing. Now you have one unfinished project and another that you might or might not finish before you have a thought about something else.

If you want to have balance in your life, one of the best things to do is to stay focused on one thing at a time. Most women can multi-task, yet it’s actually more time consuming than focusing and getting one thing finished at a time.

This is what Personal Development consultant Jeanie Marshall writes about balance. She can be reached at http://www.mhmail.

“Achieving a state of balance is not a final destination; instead it is an ongoing and evolving process. Imbalance is an aspect of balance. Being in a state of balance every second all day long is not likely or even desirable. It is more important to notice when you are in a state of balance and when you are not, than to expect to “always” be in a state of balance.

Your energy changes all through the day, and is supposed to. The more often it changes, the more you can keep finding your state of equilibrium, and the more skilled you become at being able to return to a state of balance, which immediately changes. To understand balance, you must become sensitive to your own energy, your own feelings, and your own life.”

Having balance in life will allow for you to have many more stress free days and also allow you to stay more centered. However, as Jeanie says, “it is an ongoing and evolving process.” Don’t expect this to happen overnight or every second of every day, learn to notice the difference between balance and imbalance in your life and become aware of your energy. This like most things is a learned skill.

‘Til Next Time
Here’s to Your Success and Brilliance

Take Time For You

2008-02-20T18:40:00.001-08:00

I don’t usually have a challenge taking time out for me when it’s my own choice. When I get really sick, it’s a funny thing. This time because it impacted my breathing, I was really forced to slow down. Yet nothing fell apart.

Unfortunately, that’s what women tend to do and I’m just like everyone else. It’s not that I don’t think things can move forward if I’m not around, I just tend to focus on positives so I decided it was just a nuisance and would go away on it’s own. Sometimes it does, this time it didn’t. The week became a blessing.

I did work but I gave myself permission to stop whenever I was feeling exhausted and sometimes I’d rest and then work a little more and sometimes not. I read books I hadn’t made time to finish, I watched a few old movies I’d been wanting to see and I finally started making notes for the new book I’m writing this year.

Why am I telling you this? Because, when I was 42, coming out of a 25 yr. marriage with no confidence, no self assurance, little sense of self and no money, I had no idea what I was going to do. I would never have dared to think it was OK to take time for me. Instead, I went through 8 years of dragging myself from one thing to another, in and out of terrible relationships and finally going bankrupt.

However, one day everything changed. I found out one of my children was sick and might die. I knew I had to make some major changes. I really plunged into learning about the power of the mind. By the time I was 50, my life was different, my daughter was well, I was coming out of the mire of negativity and my thinking was changing drastically.

That’s how I got where I am today in my mid- 60’s and it’s why I wrote my best selling book, The Astonishing Power of You, Simple Steps to Creating an Extraordinary Life. www.Theastonishingpowerofyou.com.

I purposely wrote a simple book because I wanted everybody to see that it’s not challenging to make change, it doesn’t take miracles, it takes making a decision that you really want to be in a different place then putting it into action. I put into the book what I myself used in the hope that other people would see they could do it too.

So………….going back to what I first said, don’t be afraid to take time for yourself, you don’t have to wait until you’re sick. You deserve to be the absolute best you can be and have all that you want in life, you really are a brilliant beam of light in this world however no-one will see it if you don’t acknowledge it first.

Have a wonderful week.
‘Til next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Amazing Woman's Day

2008-02-13T11:20:00.000-08:00

Hi Everyone,

Its Valentine day this week and my goodness I think every year the stores carry more and more amazing stuff.

This past Saturday, I had the privilege of being invited to a special woman’s event called Amazing Woman's Day and it really was – amazing.

Not only was the room filled with 200 absolutely amazing women, there was great food, wonderful speakers, incredible drumming and it was at a really beautiful museum here in Los Angeles.

I don’t often talk about events this way. However, it truly was, as we Brits say, absolutely splendid.

So, what made it so amazing besides the awards to amazing women in various avenues of life, or the speakers, including Marie Diamond from “The Secret.”

The women made it amazing. I met women who had not started in their professions until they were over 60, women who had overcome horrendous trauma and moved beyond it to success and a woman who was 84 and still went to work as an attorney every day.

A roomful of truly spiritually minded women is a very empowering experience. There was so much kindness, inspiration and caring in the room it was practically palpable. One of the things that came across the most was that everyone has the same fears and doubts in life and that every woman is entitled to be as we were born to be, wealthy, healthy and joyous.

If you’re a male reading this, there were 4 men in attendance. Three who had actually bought a ticket and they enjoyed it just as much as the women. It truly was a fabulous day and the founder March Engle is to be admired for putting together such an incredible event.

Happy Valentine Day, have a wonderful week.

‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Have Gratitude in Life as well as Humility

2008-01-30T12:34:00.000-08:00

I know this is not how I usually write so I hope you will forgive me. I am however getting really concerned about what’s going on these days.

I find that here in the US, people either can’t get enough of what’s going on in the upcoming elections or they can’t get enough of all the negative things that are happening to people like Britney Spears.

I’ve been listening to all the senators who want us to make them president, judging, putting down and criticizing each other, saying almost anything to make the other look bad in some way.

I listen to all the pathetic sad plights of the young people in the movie industry, losing custody of their kids, using drugs or as one well known movie actor said in people magazine when asked if he was going to marry the mother of his child, “It’s a love child.” Give me a break! Doesn’t anyone think of the damage this does to our young people, especially children!

Most of the movies and stuff on TV today is full of violence and often times I’m amazed when I see the plots played out. Then we wonder why there’s so much violence around us. Not that I’m saying TV or movies are solely to blame but it certainly doesn’t help.

What kind of example do these type of people set for the rest of the population? How are kids supposed to know that drugs are not OK, that having a child outside of marriage is not the greatest way for a child to grow up, that judging impairs people’s integrity and that it’s important to have gratitude in life as well as humility and that even when running a race, you can do it with dignity.

I have six grandchildren under 7 years old. I’d give a lot to see them grow up to a different kind of world.

I’d love to hear what other people think about this so if you’ve got anything to say, positive or negative, please drop me a line. In the meantime, have a wonderful, bright and peaceful week.

‘Til next time

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Live a more Healthy Lifestyle this Year

2008-01-16T09:51:00.000-08:00

This week I would like to talk about something that has come to the forefront in the news because it concerns me and it takes away from attracting what you want in life.

Smoking and Obesity. The two top causes of death in the US. Both are addictions. I don’t use words like wrong and bad so I’m not going to do that about these two topics either, neither do I judge. However, I will say they can both ruin your health.

I always had great blood pressure and cholesterol. In my 20’s & 30’s I was always between 101 – 110lbs. In the UK where I come from, small portions are the norm so it wasn’t so difficult and I was young. I moved to the US when I was 38. In my 40’s & 50’s it went to 115-125lbs and in the last few years I gained another 15lbs.

Not really such a big deal I thought since I’m in my 60’s and I like the way I look. However, a few months ago at my physical my doctor didn’t agree! My blood pressure & my cholesterol was way too high for comfort. For my height of 5’ 1” he told me it was imperative to lose at least 15lbs or I would find myself having problems. I agreed to take medication until I could get both down naturally.

I kept hearing about how many people die from obesity and smoking, suddenly it seemed to be everywhere. We often think we can do all the things we did in our 20’s and 30’s forever and nothing is going to change. Not so! I want to see my six grandchildren grow up and watch their dreams come true. I realized that if I didn’t make changes my desire to live healthy until I am at least 100 would not happen.

I started researching. . I stopped smoking when I was 42. I didn’t have a great deal to lose and it wasn’t about weight, to me it was about being healthy. I read some amazing stories about people losing hundreds of pounds and here was I with a measly 10-15lbs. to lose. I decided if one human being can do it anyone can. It’s about how much you care about yourself. I made a decision. I didn’t have to do it by next week I could set small goals. It’s what you do on a long term consistent basis that counts.

If I wanted to be really healthy I needed to make some lifestyle changes. I decided to create my own program with Lean Cuisine. In the first 3 weeks I lost 8 lbs. This was just before the holidays and you know what food and the holidays can be like :) I decided in advance to give myself permission to have a little of everything I wanted so that I didn’t feel deprived. On January 2nd I weighed myself and found I had gained only half pound. It worked and I had eaten what I wanted. I’m now back on track. I can’t do lots of exercise, however I do walk and I park far away from everything so that I have to walk further. My body feels different and I feel great.

I’m sure there are people who will say “I don’t want to hear her story” or “she has so little to lose, it’s easy.” So why am I telling you this?

Because I care. It’s not about size, it’s about feeling great and being healthy, it’s about changing your mindset. Ask yourself if you really love how you feel? What will I feel like if I don’t live a more healthy lifestyle this year? Answer the questions honestly.

Clients have often said to me. “You’re a certified master clinical hynotherapist and certified NLP Practitioner, can you make me a CD to help me lose weight?” I decided to make some CD’s that would help people to stop smoking, lose weight and zap limiting beliefs.

The reason I wrote this is because if you’re not where you want to be in any area of your life and you want to attract abundance in all ways, it’s important to take care of your own health first. The CD’s will be ready in February. If you’re interested please sign up for the Monday Motivator and you will be notified as soon as they are released.

You’re a brilliant light in this world, let that brilliance shine for yourself.

‘Til next Time
Peace and Blessings
Hazel

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Do you have a dream?

2008-01-09T13:15:00.000-08:00

I arrived back last night from an amazing 4 day vision leader conference with incredible speakers and 50 other vision leader attendees, myself included. I met wonderful people and heard the most amazing visions and dreams. The main theme I heard from everyone who wants to make great changes in themselves and/or the world were the words soul and spirituality.

This workshop wasn’t about money. Everyone I hope knows that money is a big factor and definitely makes life a lot easier. And, that we all deserve to achieve wealth and abundance in life, however the visions I heard were about the help, teaching and gifts people can bring to the world first. Do that and wealth follows.

There we were in the midst of the worst storm that San Francisco has had for over a decade, t he winds were blowing about 70 miles an hour and yet the sound of this storm, the heaviness of the rain seemed to make it even more perfect and inside the room there was a wonderful feeling of love, peace and gratitude.

We made mind maps about our visions, we shared thoughts and ideas, we spent time learning from each other and also laughing a lot. We were all really excited to imagine the difference that people can make in the world if they make dreams come true.

Visions are about whatever it is you dream of. Nothing is too big if you believe in yourself. For example, there was someone who’s vision was about wanting to help women over 50 make it easier to create great relationships, there were others who wanted to make the world a safer place for kids, overall every vision I heard was in some way to teach people how to live their lives purposefully with passion.

I think everybody is looking for the same thing, a much deeper connection with their soul, spirituality and with other people looking for the same thing.

Don’t put your dreams on hold, nothing is silly or ridiculous, everything and anything is possible. Nothing happens over night and it takes time for visions to materialize. It doesn’t always happen exactly when we want it to. Sometimes the Universe works in it’s own time. All you have to do is believe in yourself, have patience and take action. And, never listen to people who put down your dreams. You can do anything and everything, you are a brilliant source of light.

‘Til next time
Have a wonderful week
Success and Brilliance

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There’s no such thing as perfection!

2008-01-02T13:06:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year. I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season and are ready to go into a new beginning.

What do I mean by a new beginning? January is a wonderful time of the year to start fresh. To set new goals, make new wishes, create new visions and get on track with your dreams. Whatever you didn’t get done last year or the year before, take a look and see where you might have done it differently and then set actions to make it happen.

A word of caution! It’s OK to make mistakes and you definitely don’t have to be perfect. Perfectionism can create procrastination, lessen your confidence and take away your power. Achievement through being a perfectionist takes away, it doesn’t increase. It’s much more productive to get something done rather than spend time attempting to get it perfect and yet never getting it going.

Mistakes allow you to learn. Imagine if we never made mistakes, how would we learn?

So, make this a great beginning to this wonderful New Year, take one step at a time, create your goals and then don’t just look toward the end result, look at the daily actions you take and the weekly goals you create. Your goals will happen if you take it in small does. Remember to always be grateful for the abundance around you. Abundance is not about money, it’s about life.

Have a great month.
To Your Success and Brilliance
Hazel

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Are you doing this?

2007-12-20T14:15:00.000-08:00

Wow, it’s been a wonderful and exciting year and I’m really looking forward to the coming year and all the new things that we have in the works. I’m not quite where I want to be just yet so I’m certainly not willing to ‘settle.’

Are you so comfortable where you are in life that you’re willing to just ‘settle?’

That means in all areas of life. Money, relationships, spiritually, on all levels.

I highly encourage you to stop tolerating and start transitioning. Whether it’s the first step or another step your journey continues and you will create it by the choices you make.

Remember, we are born to have as much abundance in life as we dream of and I don’t necessarily mean money. There’s abundance all around you. Look and you will see it.

The choices you make to create what you want in life are going to be up to you. If you are thinking in such a way that you can attract your dreams you will create them. You deserve to live a rich, fulfilling, happy life so think big and go for it.

If you’re not where you wanted to be, whether it’s personally or professionally, make sure that your goals and plans are set and ready to go by the beginning of 2008. Ask yourself more challenging questions.

Where do I want to be in 3 years? How do I want my life to look? What will happen if I don’t change anything next year? What’s one action I can take so that I’m ready to move toward achieving my dream life?

Due to the holidays, this will be my last blog post for 2007. Watch for details about our new Discovery Circle which is all about discovering new paths on which to walk in order to grow even more on all levels. Sign up for our monthly newsletter and Monday Motivator and you will automatically be notified.

We have a very special guest call for January. I will be interviewing the founder of the Gratitude Movement Sarah Ban Breathnach of Simple Abundance.

Happy Holidays everyone and make 2008 your greatest year ever.

‘Til next year
Success and Brilliance
Hazel

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WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS

2007-12-05T16:20:00.001-08:00

Because of many conversations I’ve had recently, it has become obvious to me, that both professionally and personally, there are still many people who don’t get the “What you focus on expands,” theory.

As I’ve said many times before, attracting what you want in life is about your energy and the energy in the universe around you. It doesn’t just depend on your thinking, your words, the focus you have or the action you take. It depends on everything working in alignment, especially your mind.

What you focus on does expand. If you are constantly talking about debt that’s where you will stay. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be aware of your finances, it means have a plan to get it cleared up, take the action and then let it go. Make different choices and start preparing on bringing abundance into your life.

While I’m talking about it abundance isn’t just about money, it’s about being grateful for all the wonderful simple things in life.

If you are afraid or doubtful, stop focusing on the fear and doubt. It is necessary to acknowledge it because that keeps you real. Then tell the fear it has no power over you and then move forward into action. Remember, that fear is just “false evidence appearing real.” You have a choice. I encourage you to choose Power, purpose and passion.

If you have an illness of any description, stop focusing on feeling awful, getting tired or anything else. I have fibromialgia and 3 herniated cervical discs that can play havoc if I allow it. I choose not to. I take the necessary action, I don’t do the woe is me and every day I use the power of positive thinking.

If you want to lose weight, stop focusing on losing weight. Look at changing the way you eat, think and exercise. Add relaxation or meditation into your day, it’s been highly researched that there’s a link between stress and weight gain. Focus only on getting healthy and that’s what will happen. Be happy with who you are.

These are just a few examples. There’s an exercise I often give to clients called My Perfect Day. Write about how your perfect day would look if you could have it any way you want. Remember to write about what you ‘do want’ and not what you don’t want. Post it somewhere you can see it and live each day the way you would ideally like to live.

‘Til next time, have a wonderful week.

Simple not Stressful

2007-11-20T18:35:00.001-08:00

Here we are almost at Thanksgiving and we know that once that day passes, before we turn around Christmas will be here.

The secret to this time of the year, or any time, in order not to get stressed, is to decide in advance that you are going to stay calm, as relaxed as possible and organized. It’s all about how you choose to think and how you plan so that when the holidays arrive you are not still running around the day before buying gifts, groceries or whatever and completely stressed.

There’s approx 4 weeks until Christmas Eve. Once Thanksgiving is over, if you haven’t already made a plan, take a few minutes and get it done. Here are a few suggestions:

First, write out everything that you need to do before the holidays that don’t include working. Keeping it in your head doesn’t work. Writing is more productive.
If you are going to volunteer to help serve a meal to the homeless or something similar, make sure you arrange your days around it so that you can do it with ease and grace.
Prioritize. By doing this you will know what needs to get done now and what really can wait until a week before.
Write out a gift list. Think about what you want to buy each person so that you have some idea when you get to the stores. Schedule in your planner exactly when you intend to get this done. Make it an appointment with yourself.
If you are making the holiday meal, write your grocery list and buy and pre-cook as much as you can in advance.
Simplify, simplify and simplify even more. Whether its work related or not, don’t make everything into a big production. It just needs to be warm and friendly. The connection you have with the people you love is the most important thing at holidays.
For those of you who have children who will soon be on holiday break, plan ahead so that you have things organized to keep them busy, line up a babysitter, grandparent or friend. Do whatever is needed to keep Mom from getting overly stressed.
One of the most important things is to remember to breathe. When you are feeling tight in your shoulders, do shoulder shrugs and take deep breaths, it releases tension.

One of the most important things to remember is that it doesn’t have to be perfect. The holidays are about having fun and being with friends and family.

Have a wonderful, fun filled and joyful Thanksgiving.

‘Til next time
Here’s to your brilliance and success.

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Money is not the be all and end all of everything.

2007-11-14T10:46:00.001-08:00

Having just finished my new book launch and having The Astonishing Power of You reach #5 on Amazon’s best selling list on November 1st was very exciting and I am so very grateful and thankful for every single person who contributed to making it a successful launch. We have extended the special gift offer until November 21st. If you missed it and would like to receive $2,000 in FR^E bonus gifts check out the details at http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/amazon.html.

Unfortunately, two days after the launch I got really sick with some kind of nasty flu virus that knocked me for off my feet and for 5 days I was barely able to work so I’m now getting back on track and very grateful to be feeling better and more energized. I got well enough just in time to attend the certification program that I had committed to many months ago and this past weekend I became one of the first certified Simple Abundance leaders with Sara Ban Breathnach, which during 2008 will allow me to facilitate simple abundance workshops using her material.

Meeting Sara and being taught by her was truly a delight. For someone who is so well known and has been on Oprah more than 12 times, she is one of the most down to earth, real people that I’ve met in a very long time.

I always talk about gratitude being so important and during this past week this became re-enforced in so many ways. Although money certainly makes life easier, and being a business coach I teach people how to create wealth, there’s so much more to life. As I’ve said in the past, abundance isn’t just about money. Look around you, take in life, see the little things and become truly grateful for what you do have instead of focusing on what you don’t have. Money is not the be all and end all of everything.

As we reach the holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas I encourage you to start thinking of all the ways in which you can give back to your community, your friends, family and the world at large. Money isn’t always the answer. Volunteer to serve food to the homeless, (I like to do this on Christmas day) baby-sit for a single Mother so she can have an hour to herself, read to the elderly, there are so many ways. By giving, we truly receive so much in return.

Have a truly happy and wonderful Thanksgiving and a great week.

‘Til next time
Success and Brilliance

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2007-10-31T14:49:00.000-07:00

I’m very excited to tell you that my new book The Astonishing Power of You, Simple Steps to Creating an Extra-ordinary Life, is being released tomorrow, Thursday November 1st, 2007.

It’s been a very interesting year. I never cease to be amazed by the fact that however much we’ve already learned there is always something even newer to learn. What we focus on really does expand and the dreams and goals I put on my wonderful vision board at the beginning of the year are starting to come to fruition.

We always need to remember that not only is there a Law of Attraction, there is also a Law of Gestation. For our dreams to materialize we need to have the vision, put plans into action and then have patience. The timing isn’t always exactly when we want it, however, if we persevere what we want can happen. My new vision board for 2008 is ready, is yours? If not, start planning it now so your subconscious starts to recognize your dreams for next year.

I have a direct and very simple outlook on how to create positives in life which is why I decided to write this book as if I was having a conversation with you, rather than a long involved process. I also decided that if people were going to buy the book, I would like them to receive additional gifts for no cost.

In order to do that, I joined with over 25 authors and best selling experts who are supporting the launch of The Astonishing Power of You by contributing thousands of dollars in FRE^ Bonus Gifts especially for You.

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To Your Success and Brilliance

IT MAY TAKE A VILLAGE

2007-10-23T12:54:00.001-07:00

Sometimes like the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child,” it does take a village to get where we want to go, whether it’s in a relationship, with a friend, family or professionally. It’s important to have people who can support you in any area of life when you need it.

In your personal life it’s great to have at least one person, a friend, family member or whomever, someone you know and trust that will let you lean on them if necessary. Some one who can lend an ear and encourage you when you’re down.

The same applies to your business. Doesn’t be a lone wolf; create a team. Use whatever support you can afford that will sustain your business needs and free you up to do what you do best. If you can’t afford to hire people, look at hiring an intern. If you need a website, go to a local college and ask a student. If you look you will find what you need and having help will allow you to focus on what you do best.

Following on with that, it would be remiss of me not to mention the horrendous fires we are having here in Southern California. The worst in California’s history. Hundreds of thousands of people have been evacuated, homes have been lost and places have been declared a state of emergency. Although I don’t live in a fire area the winds are spreading the smoke everywhere and I feel like I’ve been breathing it in all day. I can’t even begin to imagine what it must feel like where the fires are situated.

Any kind of tragedy often gives me pause for thought. We really need people when something negative happens in life. Family, friends, colleagues and it’s probably going to take a village for many of these displaced people to re-build. If you look at situations that have happened in the past, it’s always taken groups of people to help build things back up.

For those of us that practice the principles of The Law of Attraction, it does not mean that people have attracted these fires. Nature is nature and sometimes things are beyond our control. In any given situation the most important thing to remember is that everything is our responsibility and nothing is our fault.

Wherever you live right now, I would encourage you to take a look at your life and remember that in every challenge there is a gift of discovery. When you have any kind of challenge in your life, ask yourself what you can learn about yourself or the world around you from the situation. My line for many years, based on my own experiences, has been, “from something bad, can come something good,” and even in the worst of times, I’ve learned something huge from the situation.

My heart & prayers go out to all the people who are in fire areas.
‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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THE POWER OF ATTITUDE

2007-10-03T09:33:00.000-07:00

Attitude is definitely a state of being! It’s a choice you make. I’ve heard every excuse over the years, both as a therapist and a coach about why someone didn’t reach a goal, have time, follow through, leave an unrewarding job or relationship, keep commitments or just have fun, enjoy life and be happy.

I also in years past, made the same excuses, had the same negative attitude and learned how to make the changes so that today, I live the life that I want. I’ve been there, done that and it doesn’t work. My dream vision is to see everyone having a wonderful attitude about themselves, their lives, their professions and living the life they dream about. It does take some work to get there and it can happen.

I’ve heard the words, “I don’t know” “I don’t have the money,” more times than I care to think about and my answer has always been the same. “Yes, you do, but first you have to open your heart and be truthful with yourself.”

Every time you say “I don’t know,” or “I don’t have the money,” that’s what you are creating.

If the attitude you have is that you can’t take a vacation because there isn’t enough money, that’s the way it will stay. Money is the biggest nemesis for most people. If your attitude is that there’s no great relationship out there for you, there won’t be, or that you can’t be successful in business and you are in fear, anxiety and doubt about yourself, you don’t leave yourself open to attracting what you want.

When you start asking yourself “how can I create enough money to take some time off,” the universe will start working for you. Start doing things for and with yourself without worrying about a relationship and you will open yourself up to attracting what you want. Think positively about your business and you will draw business to you.

Changing attitudes has to happen on all levels, physically, emotionally and spiritually. You have to be willing to walk the talk! You can read every book and take every workshop but if you keep justifying without facing your own truth, it’s almost impossible to move forward successfully!

Whether its fear, anxiety, overwhelm or stress, all these feelings are created by the way you think and the attitude you have.

Apart from the fact that I learned this for myself, one of the most important things I discovered is that it doesn’t have to be a long or difficult process. Getting caught up in the rhetoric is often what holds people back. There are many simple and direct tools to use that can help you move forward. One of the most important tools is; that you make a decision to have a positive attitude each day and that you intend to create the life that you want.

‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Shoulda, Coulda, Have to!!

2007-09-26T14:38:00.000-07:00

I think these words were almost like a mantra during my most developmental childhood years “you should”, “You could,” “You must,” “You have to.” They became ingrained into my subconscious, as are most things we see and hear as children during our young years.

As I discovered over the course of 60 years, I wasn’t the only one who received these messages. I’d go so far as to say that probably, from my experience with people and with clients, that about 95% of the population live their lives with this kind of thinking.

Unfortunately, this is really detrimental to our growth, spiritually, personally and professionally. When we think this way, we are not following our own path, we are following the path of someone else through the messages we have stored on the subconscious level.

There are no, shoulds, musts, could, have to, there’s really only what it is that you love to do and are passionate about doing. When you find yourself saying or even hearing these words, ask yourself a couple of questions. “Who said I should or must.” Do I think it’s necessary? Is it something I really want to do or am I doing it because I think I’m supposed to and will feel guilty if I don’t?” “Will doing this get me closer to the results I want in life or business?”

Hopefully, your answer will be no, I’m doing this because I really want to because it’s something that makes me happy.

The great thing about life is that dreams can come true. If your’s are not materializing the way you want take a look at the words you are using. The words we use = the way we are thinking = the action we take = the results we create.

Build your life for you, set goals for you, and achieve your dreams for you. You don’t need someone else’s validation to live the life you want.

‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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When you don’t have control let it go!

2007-09-13T19:54:00.000-07:00

Last week I was having huge challenges with my outlook email program and for over 24 hours couldn’t send email or receive it through the usual channels. When running a business this can result in huge issues. Without professional help there was little I could do. This was out of my control. Thank god I learned many years ago, that if I don’t personally have control over something I need to make a choice to let it go. Life happens, no matter what. Getting stressed is not the answer.

This was not something I myself could resolve. Even my fabulous VA Mandi couldn’t resolve this one. I sat on the phone with the hosting company for what seemed like hours both Wednesday and Thursday. I was on hold at times, for as long as 15 minutes.

20 years ago, I didn’t have the patience I have today. I would not have been able to let go. I would have driven myself insane trying to make it work, got more and more irritated and stressed and then would still have to call someone to fix things.

These days, nothing is so important that I have to allow it to cause me stress or impatience. Instead I made a conscious decision that my business wouldn’t fall apart if I didn’t have email for a while, I could use the time to work on other things. It actually was a plus. I got a lot more achieved with this mindset, didn’t have to bother with email and never had a moment of stress.

I have a framed copy of the serenity prayer on the bookshelf in my office. I often use this to remind me about patience and control. Like the majority of people I’ve worked with over the past 25 years, I too come from a place where being in control and being perfect was almost part of my DNA. I’ve proven that this kind of thinking can be changed. For those of you who might not know the serenity prayer:

“God Grant Me the Serenity to Accept the Things I Cannot Change, the Courage to Change the Things I Can And the Wisdom to Know the Difference.”

Whether in your personal or professional life, remember that learning to be patient and letting go of control will help you to create a life that is more grounded and peaceful.

‘Til next time
Success and Brilliance

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You are worthwhile

2007-09-10T16:03:00.001-07:00

Sometimes we’re in the right place at the right time and that’s where I felt I was on Saturday. I attended the Los Angeles Chapter of National Speakers Association Conference in Palm Springs, which if you know where this is, you know it was hot, actually around 110 degrees. Thank God for air-conditioning.

I had the pleasure of listening to many wonderful speakers. However, what spoke most highly to me, was not just that they were successful or great speakers, they were great people. One in particular left a very vivid image on my mind.

I had the honor of being at a round table session with Robert Danzig, the head of the Hearst Corporation, Dean of Hearst Management Institute. I’m sure you know the company I mean. The most incredible quality about this man was his humility and authenticity. His story of success is quite remarkable. I can’t share it all here, however, I’d like to share with you something he spoke about. If you would like to know more about him, his books and work go to www.bobdanzig.com

This man was raised in the foster care system, no family, no comforts, no money, no nothing. When he was 11 yrs. old a social worker said to him, “you are worthwhile,” that was his first step in self worth. He stood on her shoulders. When he was 16 yrs. old, an office manager at his first job, (yes, 16. He did eventually attend college and received a fellowship to Stanford University,) said that she believed he was “full of promise.” That gave him the impetus to have ambition. He stood on her shoulders too.

He says; “seek out those who offer you their shoulders to stand on. Be open to people who offer to stand shoulder to shoulder with you if you are facing any kind of adversity. Welcome people who inspire you to keep going when you come across stones and boulders along your journey. The only requirement you need is to be the seeker – the willing vessel to allow others to be your source of strength.”

I’m in my 60’s and from my own life experiences I know that no matter what your background, race, religion, size, age, education or current situation, the only thing that can stop you from achieving what you want in life is yourself. You have as much inner courage and strength as you choose to use. You can do what Bob Danzig has done, if you so choose.

‘Til next time

To Your Success and Brilliance

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Time for New Beginnings

2007-09-05T15:28:00.001-07:00

Here we are in September. The end of summer is near and I see this as a time for new beginnings. Labor Day is over, the kids go back to school, people are back from vacation and it’s time to ‘start’ thinking about next year’s intentions, goals and successes. Not including this month, there are 3 months left until the end of 2007 and it’s never too early to start planning.

When I talk about success, I’m not just talking about financial success. There are many different kinds of success. The word might mean different things to different people. I recently heard someone say, “Wealthy people have money but people with money are not necessarily wealthy.”

In my 60 plus years, I have certainly found this to be true. I’ve met many millionaires over the years who seem to have everything, yet they are not happy.

Although money and things often make life easier, they don’t necessarily make our lives better. Money doesn’t always create freedom. In fact, money is often used as a band-aid. Real freedom and success is created from within. Success is how you see it in your life, what it means to you, not what it means to someone else.

According to the dictionary the word Success means, “a favorable result that one has hoped for.”

I often ask new clients the following question, it tells me a lot about where they are coming from within. My request would be that you answer this one for yourself.

“What does success mean to me.”

‘Til next time
Success and Brilliance

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Who are you surrounding yourself with?

2007-08-29T13:55:00.000-07:00

There were a couple of interesting things I heard during the past week that I wanted to pass on to you to nudge your thinking.

I don’t spend time with people who are negative, people who are not generally happy or people who more often than not live in fear. I don’t want any of that negative energy around me.

I certainly don’t know everything, I learn just like everyone else and I continue to do so. I’ve been very fortunate and have surrounded myself with people who can teach me things I don’t know or help me to enhance things I have already learned.

Who are you surrounding yourself with? Do you surround yourself with people who inspire you, who laugh and are happy 90% of the time?

Do you really hear what people say? Not just listen to the words but really hear them or are you often anxiously waiting when someone is speaking, to tell your story and what’s going on in your life? Make a habit of really hearing when people speak. This will also help you to determine what kind of thinking they have and whether it’s bringing positive or negative energy into your energy field.

The other interesting thing I heard was from one of my mentors, Chris Howard who said, "Wealthy People have money, however people with money are not necessarily wealthy."

All of this adds up to becoming really consciously aware. Are you attracting positive energy and creating the life of your dreams?

Have a wonderful week and happy Labor Day.

‘Til Next Time
Success and Brilliance

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Perseverance = Power

2007-08-22T18:37:00.000-07:00

I went to see a great show last week, “Jersey Boys.” The Frankie Valli story. This was my era of music and it was really great entertainment with fabulous music that brought back lots of memories of my younger days. It also gave me another ‘Aha’ moment I didn’t expect in that setting. If you don’t give up, you really can achieve what you want. I would like so much to see everyone understanding this.

Often we hear about people who bring great pleasure to the world without ever knowing what their back story is. Frankie Valli’s story was very interesting.

To make it brief, he ran with a gang of really wild kids who had dealings with the mafia and got into crime and lots of mischief resulting in jail time. He could just as easily have taken that road. Instead he wanted more and became famous for giving pleasure instead of famous for being infamous.

Often when people want more and it’s too challenging they give up. Sometimes, without realizing it, they are on the brink of success and they stop. Why??

One of the reasons is they don’t want it badly enough. Sometimes it’s because they are really afraid they will fail and don’t believe in themselves sufficiently. It’s all about how you are thinking. I’ve said this many times before, change the way you think and you really can change your life.

That’s what Frankie Valli did. Never mind what challenges were thrown at him and there were many, he didn’t see giving up as an option. He was passionate about his music and loved what he did and that’s really all it takes.

Make sure you really love what you do and are passionate about it. Keep moving forward and although I can’t promise miracles, I do know that miracles can happen. You have the ability to achieve anything you want in life. Go out and make it happen.

‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you would like a copy of the new life balance wheel download it at: www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/resources/life_balance.pdf. Use it to keep yourself focused and on track with your goals.

Relationships. How do you handle yours?

2007-08-15T16:45:00.000-07:00

The Law of Attraction and your astonishing mind works in all areas of life. It is especially powerful when you are connecting with other people.

Whether married, single, gay, straight, friends, colleagues, young or old, relationships play a very powerful part in creating success in life.

Of course, the most important relationship you can ever have is the one you have with yourself. When you feel really good about who you are and others see you as a confident, fulfilled person, you gain more respect and it makes you very attractive to the universe.

Relationships are part of life and life is about love and energy which, in turn, allows you to attract what you want into your life.

Even in the workplace. If you spend a good part of your life working with other people, creating good relationships with colleagues is of prime importance to your daily health.

If you find yourself arguing with someone and wanting to be right, let go. It’s a no win situation. Take a deep breath before you speak then act, don’t re-act. Always listen very carefully to what people are saying, don’t just hear their voice, listen to the words.

One of the ways to stop someone cold if they continually need to be right is to be the bigger of the two. Step back and say, “You’re right.” They have nowhere to go with it once you say that. As long as you know the truth about the given situation, you don’t have to be right. This applies whether it’s work, marriage, partnership or friendship.

When people continually argue that they are right, they have a great ‘need’ to be heard and it’s the only way they have of being in control.

Relationships honestly can make your days great or challenging. Also, remember that men and women think differently. There are no rights and wrongs just differences

That’s it ‘til next time.
Here to your success and brilliance

Which way are you looking?

2007-08-08T11:52:00.000-07:00

"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing." - George Bernard Shaw, 1856-1950

Sorry I wasn’t here last week. I got a big backlogged and it’s taken some time to get caught up.

Which way are you looking? If you’re only focused on what you don’t want and expect to get what you do want, it’s not possible. First of all, according to the Law of Attraction what we focus on expands, secondly it’s not possible to have positive thoughts if you are continually thinking negatively.

Thinking about what you don’t want is negative thinking. If you Visualize your dream life, focus on what you really do want in life, use some simple tools and of course take action, you will find money, success, good health, great relationships will flow into your life more easily and more effortlessly.

I’d request this week that you set yourself one positive intention at the beginning of each day, focus on only the positives and let the universe do it’s work.

As I’ve said before, it may not happen at the exact time that you want it. Instant gratification doesn’t usually work, however if you keep thinking this way, gradually you will find yourself attracting what you do want into your life.

Drop me a line and let me know how using the Law of Attraction is working for you.

‘Til Next time
Success and Brilliance

PS. If you haven’t checked it out yet, check out my brand new group coaching program. You can work with me for less than half of my regular fee. Details and registration. www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/coaching.html

PPS. If you haven’t yet signed up for the monthly “Mind Matters” ezine go to www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com

Are you a Worry Wart?

2007-07-25T14:21:00.001-07:00

I know the title might not sound very attractive, I’m a Brit and that’s a very British expression. It’s also very to the point. Are you a worrier? Do you think about most things like it’s a catastrophe? Do you more often than not feel stressed and as we Brits would say “out of sorts?”

If this is how you feel and think, you’re making a choice to allow yourself to be this way. I probably wouldn’t be too far off if I said that about 80% of people in most countries think this way a lot of the time. Especially, with things the way they are in the world today.

I truly understand. I used to worry about everything, catastrophize most situations and walked around so stressed I had headaches every day. I didn’t change these patterns until I was in my 40’s. However, when I did, my life didn’t just change, it transformed my life and my thinking. Change is inevitable daily, transformation is a choice. Choice = power.

One of my clients, Ann, on her coaching calls, would continually complain. She didn’t have time to get assignments finished because……… It was Jim’s fault she was always late for appointments, etc. etc. I don’t have time, I’m always so busy. Why is it so difficult, so and so doesn’t have these problems etc. etc.

Being busy does not necessarily mean she was being productive, which is what sent her to me in the first place.

Because she was living her days this way, she was continually anxious, always worried and lived with constant stress.

I help people to change the way they think about all areas of their lives. She hired me to help her to earn more money, have more productive days and be more balanced in her life. I love my clients and I’m patient, I also want them to succeed.
I don’t want clients to waste money if they’re not committed to taking action.

First, she had to get honest and tap into the part of her that she was hiding. What was the payoff to not achieving what she said she wanted? What was she afraid of? How honest was she being with herself? What kind of negative messages did she have recorded in her mind?

Like me, most people get there messages from childhood. You can’t blame your childhood forever. As adults you have to take responsibility. This is part of
The Law of Cause and Effect.

Every cause has an effect; every effect has a cause. Thank God as human beings we have choice.

If you choose to live at the effect of life, you will always make excuses and find reasons why things don’t work out, why you don’t have enough money. You will always justify and blame others for lack in any area. This was initially how Ann was living.

Depending on the childhood messages we receive, many of us have gone through this phase at one time or another. The challenge is what happens when we stay in this mindset as adults.

Living on this side of the equation usually creates feelings of low self worth and feelings of powerlessness. Often feeling sorry for yourself and perhaps comparing what you don’t have to what others do have. Being part of the “ain’t it awful” crowd without even realizing it.

Having real power means that you are willing to live on the cause side of the equation, you are willing to take charge of your life and take responsibility for creating your life the way you really want it, based on your own actions. When you live life this way, it empowers you and you open yourself to the universe so that it works with you in attracting what you want in life.

Change doesn’t happen overnight, so patience is very important when going through this process. Like Ann, you have to be willing to look at the part you play in attracting the things that are and have happened in your life. It’s necessary to say if I wasn’t hiding, if I got really honest with myself, what action would I take?

Today, six months later, Ann is well on her way to financial freedom and great success and she thinks very differently. That doesn’t mean she’s perfect, or that she doesn’t slip, like all of us, she slips back into the thinking from time to time, however, it’s not about never slipping, it’s about how long you stay there. She learned how she could zap negative thinking in seconds. You can do this too.
Live your life to the fullest and live it the way you dream about.
(Real client, different name for confidentiality).

‘Til next time
To Your Brilliance and Success

PS. New FR*E teleclass on Tuesday July 31st, 6.00p.m. EASTERN – 75 minutes.
Zap Negativity – Turn Yesterday’s Doubt into Tomorrow’s Success. It’s filling fast, sign up NOW. www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/zap_negativity.html

PPS. Watch for details of the brand new Empowerment for Success Circle starting in September. If you would like to be on the list for early notification send an e.mail to info@mindmasterycoaching.com.

Thinking Outside the Box

2007-07-17T15:43:00.001-07:00

I realized this past few weeks in listening to people around me, just how many people don’t really think outside of the box. Mainly, because they don’t realize they are locked in a box of their own creation. You are not in jail, there are no bars other than those that you might create yourself.

This is one of the times when imagination plays a great part. If you were told that stepping outside of the box, guaranteed that you could create a different kind of future, would you take action?

After you have read this, close your eyes, imagine yourself living exactly the kind of life that you want. Imagine you can feel the breath of a breeze on your face, the warmth of the sun, the smell of newly mowed grass, the sound of laughter, feelings of excitement and pleasure and sit with this for a few minutes. Put everything in the picture that you would really like and really feel the feelings of having this. Take a deep breathe and open your eyes. How did it feel? Did it feel powerful, pleasurable, joyful, frightening, adventurous or whatever feelings you may have had.

You can have everything you want in life because you already have all you need to create it right there in your mind. There really is an unlimited supply, you can have it if you can conceive, understand and believe it.

Step outside of the box, it’s OK to feel a little fear and it’s OK to get off course. Life is not about being perfect, it’s just about being. Air planes are continually off course, however because a plane is programmed to know exactly where it’s going, it usually arrives at its destination. You can do the same. Decide what you want, step outside of the box and create the life of your dreams, you deserve it.

‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you haven’t done so already, I invite you to sign up for my FR*E teleseminar on Tuesday July 31st 2007 at 6p.m. Eastern. – ZAP NEGATIVITY – TURN THE DOUBTS OF YESTERDAY INTO TOMORROW’S SUCCESS. Sign up NOW, this class is filling fast. http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/zap_negativity.html

Negativity can be made to work for You.

2007-07-10T15:52:00.000-07:00

I’ve written about many different topics in the months gone by. Most of them are connected to attracting what you want from the Universe.

There really is no big secret to being able to do this, however it does take certain techniques to allow you to make sure that your subconscious and conscious are working in alignment.

If you are taking action, thinking positively and are still not attracting what you want, stop whatever you are doing and ask yourself whether you really believe on every level that you can achieve wealth, success and joy in life.

Your subconscious is a tricky little mischief and is very powerful. Is there even a teeny bit of doubt or fear? Even if there is, there are ways to take the doubt and use it to work for you instead of against you.

You are invited to join me for a FR^E teleseminar on Tuesday, July 31st, 2007 at 6p.m. Eastern time – Zap Your Negativity – Turn Yesterday’s Doubt into Tomorrow’s Success. This will be a very popular call. There are only a limited number of lines. For more information and to sign up go to: http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/zap_negativity.html

‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

Clean up your inner trash!

2007-07-02T15:39:00.001-07:00

We all have mind messages, the stories that play in our heads, usually put there by other people. I was watching a movie, The Peaceful Warrior,” this past weekend and I was again reminded of the fact that until we clean up the ‘trash’ in our minds, it’s very challenging to be able to attract what we want in life.

If you have old habits and behaviors that are holding you back, clear them away. When I was in private practice, I used to use a visualization with clients that had them seeing a garbage truck carrying all the old messages away. Clearing out old mindsets is not nearly as challenging as it sounds, it’s just a matter of setting an intention and working on it. “The battles we fight are on the inside.” Clear out the trash and there won’t be any more battles.

You’re human, you might make mistakes and that’s OK, that’s how you learn. Change the way you think and you can change your life.

Have a wonderful July 4th.

‘Til next time

March To Your Own Drummer

2007-06-27T18:00:00.000-07:00

Last week I took a real vacation, something I haven’t done for a number of years. I went to a beautiful family resort/spa with all my family including my six grandchildren, who range in age from 3 years to six years old. I played relaxed, & read great books. A really great treat for me. Especially being around the children for a whole week. It also allowed me the opportunity to see how kids re-act to other people.

At this age they still march to their own drummer. Although, they heeded what their parents said, when it came to what other kids wanted they didn’t stand still for saying yes just to be liked. From the youngest to the oldest they went with what they wanted to do without worrying about the reaction of their peers or for that matter adults.

I was thinking what a pity it is that somewhere between 5 – 10 years old, we tend to lose the ability to ‘go for it’ for ourselves. We start to play the record of the ‘you should’, you must, ‘you have to.’ And we start to conform with what we think society wants. We drift into what I call the “pleasing syndrome.” Often people do this for many years, sometimes their whole lives. This really dilutes inner power and diminishes energy and the ability to attract what you really want in life.

Look at the first two principles in the 28 principles of attraction written by Thomas Leonard.

1. The Importance of YOU. Without you there is nothing and Attraction isn’t possible. Make sure you take care of yourself first. Not to the Detriment of others and don’t get stuck in ego, this isn’t attractive.

2. UNHOOK YOURSELF FROM THE FUTURE:
Attraction works in the present, not in the future. If you’re dragging things from your past or afraid of what might happen in the future, you won’t attract What you want in the NOW.

Are you pleasing yourself or are you stuck in pleasing other people and saying yes even when it doesn’t really work for you because you want people to think more highly of you, to think you’re nice, to like you etc. etc.

I know what it’s like because many years ago I was stuck in that pattern. What I discovered when I finally found the courage to march to my own drummer was that people respected me much more when I stood in integrity and set boundaries for myself. Those that didn’t like it were not meant to be in my life.

Always march to your own drummer and have respect for yourself.

‘Til next Time

To your Success and Brilliance

Fear or Fun!!

2007-06-11T12:58:00.001-07:00

I spent a lot of time this weekend around young children and animals and it gave me pause for thought! Young kids have lots of fun, they are not yet immersed in fear. Dogs have fun, they sleep a lot and they are usually at peace. (I don’t have dogs so I share my daughter’s. The photo is one of my grand-dogs Oreo taking a break from running around with the kids.)

I watched my 5 year old grandson receive a trophy from his little league team in baseball, they weren’t fearful as they ran up and down the court with their little faces focused on getting a ball in the net, they were having fun and learning a little about the art of competition.

I was watching a roomful of children at my son’s twins 4th birthday party, (I have 2 sets of twin grandchildren), climbing up what they call bouncy’s. These contraptions were at least 7 times as high as each child. There they were climbing up and over and happily sliding down. They had no fear, they were having fun and once at the bottom, they couldn’t wait to climb back up to slide down again from this huge height.

We as adults have all the ingrained messages that have been recorded in our minds over the years, consequently, most people are not at peace, often don’t sleep well, get mired in fear and doubt and don’t have nearly enough fun.

You can change that if you choose to! We are at choice to live our lives however we want. What choice have you made recently?

Do you have any fear and doubt that you allow to hold you back in any way in life?
Are you living the life that you have designed or just getting through the days however they happen!

One of my greatest joys in my coaching business is when I see people start to break up the limiting conversations they are having with themselves. The mind chatter that goes on, the talk that brings up the fear and doubt.

If there was absolutely nothing standing in your way, no financial challenges, no doubt, fear or anything else, how would you design your life? What would it look like? We are half way through the year, this is a good time to take stock of where you are and if you are not living the life you want, whether it’s professionally or personally, it’s time to do something about it!

I’d love to hear from you if you have any questions or comments. Especially, if something has made you stop and think and you are making changes in your life.

Have a great week.

‘Til next time

Expand Your Vision to Attract More

2007-06-06T11:44:00.001-07:00

Jim Rohn said, "We all have two choices, we can make a living or we can design a life."

Of course we all want to have enough money to pay the bills, keep a roof over our head and eat. However, if we play a bigger game and take more action the possibilities are endless.

I teach my clients not to just make a living but to gain the confidence to 'design' the life of their dreams.

We know that based on the Law of Attraction, what we focus on is what we attract. So, what happens if we think we're following the law of attraction and we’re not getting the results? There's always a reason!

Over the 25 years that I've been teaching this subject and from my own experience, I have learned this secret. We have to be in alignment on a conscious and subconscious level with our thinking. From what I have seen, I believe that more often than not, this is not happening and people are not aware of the barriers they are creating.

Unfortunately, all too often people don't realize that the actions they take, what they are consciously thinking and what is really going on at a deeper more fundamental level, is not the same.

If you have all the plans in place, are taking action and still not getting where you want to be, you have to be more willing to dig a little deeper.

Do you honestly, deep down, believe that you can reach your goals?
Have you set them so that the laws of the universe can work with and for you?

To make the changes, to overcome fear, doubt and mind chatter, there are many options. You could hire a coach, take a class, read a book, listen to CD programs etc. However you make the changes, I highly encourage you to take action so that you can take down the barriers, think outside of the box and achieve the life of your dreams.

‘Til next time

P.S. Although details have not yet been released, I am starting a 4 week teleclass that will specifically address these challenges. The teleclass will be limited to 20 people so there will be time to give individual attention if needed. If you are interested in hearing full details about this as soon as it is announced, please send an e.mail to Sheri@mindmasterycoaching.com.

P.P.S. If you haven’t checked it out yet, go to www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com and click the product page for the new program that is all about the law of attraction, “Six Simple Steps to Generate a Six Figure Income in 2 years” (or less).
(don’t be fooled by the title.) Stop and sign up for the Free 6 week e-course.

Half Way Point: Are you on your way!?

2007-05-24T09:38:00.000-07:00

As Memorial day approaches, we’re almost half way through 2007. Kids are graduating, even my 5 year old Grandson has a graduation from nursery school, Father’s are celebrating, and June 21st brings the official start of summer.

Whether it’s in your personal life or your business I think this is another time for new beginnings.

This is the time of year when I look back to see how I’ve been doing with goals and intentions I set for this year. I look to see if I’m attracting what I want and if I’m on track to achieve my goals for December.

A few of the things that I planned for this year are in the works. My book, “The Astonishing Power of You,” which will be almost like an owners manual for your mind, will be finished and due for release in October. At the beginning of May, I released my fantastic new program, Six Simple Steps to Generate a Six Figure Income in 2 years (or less). Don’t let the title fool you, It’s about the law of attraction and can really be used for all areas of life. I’m in the midst of recording amazing visualizations that will accelerate your future growth, plus in September I will be starting an ‘accelerating your empowerment’ circle for women, online.

What have you been attracting during the past six months? Have you been changing your thinking, letting go of negatives, what if’s and other things you may have been tolerating? Are you attracting positive things into your business and your life?

If not, I encourage you to look at why not! As I already said, it’s a time for new beginnings, it’s never too late to start, or to get re-focused and back on track.

Remember, according to the law of attraction, everything is created from the inside, you live your life exactly how YOU create it.

Have a wonderful Memorial day weekend.

‘Til next time
To your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you’re interested in being one of the first to hear about the fantastic new programs sign up for our free six week e-course and newsletter www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com. My newsletter database will hear about all these things first, so don’t lose this opportunity to be at the top of the list.

PPS. Check out the new law of attraction CD program at www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/moremoney.html

The Blame Game

2007-05-17T09:04:00.001-07:00

Hi Everybody,

Could this be you? I wanted to write a few words about this because it’s come up a number of times with people in my life the past few weeks.

When we play this game, we are not standing in integrity or taking responsibility for our own life, neither are we living in the present. It’s often much easier for people to blame everything and everybody outside of themselves for what is not coming to fruition in their life.

Playing the blame game is just one of the behaviors that can be a total energy drain.
The only person who is responsible for the results in your life is YOU.

As I’ve said before, don’t let the old messages trip you up. Make good informed choices and remember that all choices have consequences, just make sure that your choices work positively for you so the energy around you stays high.

I’d love to hear from anyone who has found the tips useful or has suggestions for specific topics that you might like to hear about. Don’t by shy. It’s a great way to connect with the universe and I’m here to be of service to you.

Have a truly wonderful week.

‘Til next time

PS. Remember to check out the website at www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com. Sign up for our FREE 6 week E-Course and receive our monthly newsletter, newly named “The Accelerator.” Especially check out the product page. Don’t be fooled by the titles, all the products are based on using the law of attraction.

You deserve the best of everything in life.

2007-05-09T10:51:00.000-07:00

As The Empowerment Coach and an expert in teaching people how to gain their inner power and achieve their dreams, although at this point in my life I don’t get taken back by what goes on in the world, I still find I am surprised when someone contacts me for help and I find out that the main reason they haven’t achieved their goals and dreams is because they have not yet discovered the power they have within themselves and what they are really capable of achieving in life.

It’s never too late, there’s always time, Unfortunately, we don’t know what we don’t know, until we find out! Whether you are 16 or 60. You start from wherever you are and there’s lots of time to achieve anything you want in life.

I didn’t discover my own self worth and inner power until I was in my 40’s and my greatest wish in life would be that children, teenagers, young people find this inner power while they are still very young so that they don’t have to wait until later in their lives.

Imagine if all the kids in the world believed in themselves and the dreams they have, what a different world this might become!

If you are struggling with your inner worth or know someone who is, please reach out to someone. Find a mentor, hire a coach, talk to a friend, read a book, anything so that you can work on increasing that strength. You deserve to have joy, wealth, success and happiness in life. All it takes is being willing to:

Set an intention + make a commitment to yourself + take action = positive results.

Stay on top of what’s going on in your mind so that your subconscious programming can’t take over. Don’t allow the mind chatter/gremlin to keep you stuck. Don’t let anyone else steal your dreams. You deserve the best of everything in life.

Have a great week.

‘Til next time

PS. Remember to heck out the website at www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com. Sign up for the Free 6 week E-Course and receive our monthly Mind Matters Newsletter. Also check out the product page.

Make True Commitments

2007-05-03T08:49:00.001-07:00

My apologies for getting this out late this week. I was out of town until Monday morning and now I’m playing catch up.

Judging by the lovely e.mails I received it was a great teleconference on Monday. I’m delighted that everyone on the call enjoyed it. If you’re interested in the new product you can check it out at www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/moremoney.html

I have found over the years, not only from clients but also from my own experience, that one of the main reasons that people don’t reach their goals is because they don’t truly commit to them. Usually, if there is hesitation in totally committing to something it’s because there is an underlying fear or doubt. People who don’t make true commitments are always looking for a way out. They will use any excuse as to why they don’t achieve their goals, never looking at the real reason. This can lead to disappointment.

Remember to check what’s going on in your subconscious. Is your mind chatter telling you that if you make a commitment and don’t achieve the goal you will have failed? There is no such thing as failure. When you are doing your best, you are taking action The only time people fail is when they stand still.

I encourage you to make real commitments, not just saying the words but also writing down your goals and posting them somewhere you can see them. This keeps your subconscious
from shutting down and ignoring them. (there is a whole section in the new program about goal setting.)

If you want a really beautiful free screensaver that will keep you on track and motivated go to www.ecourseforfree.com/law_ss.cfm. There are many other wonderful things available on the site. I downloaded the screen saver and it really is not only beautiful but very powerful.

Have a fantastic week.

‘Til next time.

PS. Remember to check out the new law of attraction product at www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/moremoney.htm l

Your Comfort Zone Can Stop You From Living a Full Life

2007-04-25T13:03:00.000-07:00

Moving Forward.

Staying in our comfort zone is much easier than stepping into the unknown. However, it’s also much more dangerous because often we don’t live a life that we want or one that’s big enough for us. Step outside of the old comfort zone and create a new, bigger, brighter zone that you become comfortable with.

Sometimes you might hit a barrier of fear or doubt. So, how do you get past this!

Imagine that you are running a race, maybe a marathon. The other runners are surging ahead and you feel yourself falling back. You start to think that it’s much easier just to coast or even to give up. This is the time when you need to pull forth all the inner power and energy that you’ve been storing up. You take a deep breathe, you surge forward and you find yourself getting closer and closer to the front of the group. You win! You’ve done it! Success is yours.

Sometimes it might seem challenging to keep up. If you keep moving forward, if you persevere and hold onto the dream you break through the barrier. The success you want is yours.

These few steps will help you to move ahead.

1. Start by clearly defining your goal and how you want it to look. (this is any area of life.) It might be professionally, health, weight, relationships. Whatever it is, it’s important to define how you want it to look. What would your dream ideally look like if anything were possible?

2. Although it might feel real, remember that fear is just a feeling manifested by a thought. You have the power to choose how you want to feel and how you want your life to be.

3. Focus on taking one action each day toward your dream and keep moving forward.

Have a great week. I’m rooting for all of you.

‘Til next time
Here’s to your Brilliance and Success

Hazel

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I'm the me I choose to be!!

2007-04-17T13:15:00.001-07:00

The reason I used the title, "I’m the me I choose to be" is because over the years, first with patients in private practice and since 1998 with coaching clients, I have discovered that many people don’t realize that they are who they have made a choice to be.

We live with the law of attraction every day and the kind of energy we put out into the world is what we receive back. That applies to who we are too, not only what we attract.

For many years I played the role of victim, all through my 20’s and 30’s and finally in my 40’s, things changed. There were situations and events that brought me face to face with my own weaknesses and made it necessary for me over the course of a number of years, to make many changes.

Of course, I could have chosen not to make the changes, I could have chosen to stay the 'me' I was then. However, my life no longer worked that way and that was the one thing I could see, even when I didn’t want to. I knew I now had to take responsibility for my own life and create it the way I wanted to live.

We are all victims of circumstances! However, we don’t have to play the role. Whatever is going on in your life, your business, your job, ask yourself if this is how you want to live. Your thoughts create your feelings, feelings create behavior, behaviors become actions. What are your behaviors, feelings and actions like? Are you being true to yourself? Is there thinking that you can change so you can take charge of your life?

Choose to be the person you truly want to be and live the life you truly want to live.

Have a wonderful week.
'Til next time

To Your Success and Brilliance
Hazel
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What the Law of Attraction is Really About

2007-04-11T15:08:00.000-07:00

There’s been such a lot of controversy about the movie “The Secret” and how it’s giving people misleading information, I wanted to make sure that all of my readers understood what The Law of Attraction is really about.

There are many laws within the Law of Attraction. I’d like to share a few of the natural laws of the universe from Bob Proctors version of "Science of Getting Rich."

The Law of perpetual transmutation - The images you create in your mind can be manifested in your life.

The Law of Vibration - Everything vibrates (energy). Your thoughts control your vibration.

The Law of Cause and Effect - Action -- re-action are equal and opposite.
Take responsibility for creating your life the way you want it. Don’t just be at the effect of whatever life throws at you.

The Law of Gestation - Every seed has a gestation period. Your goals will manifest when the time is right through the action you take. Know that they will.

Yes, it’s about attracting into our lives wonderful things and living lives of wealth, joy, freedom and happiness. It is however, not going to happen just by saying the words or thinking it will.

Your mind is your master, you have the power to control it anyway you want. If you think negatively, that’s mostly what you will feel and attract. If you take action, think positively and believe in yourself, you become one with the universe and have the power to attract what you want into your life.

Today I am 66. Some people would say, “Oh my God, I’m getting old,” to me that means another exciting phase of my life is beginning. Someone said, “live, laugh and love.” I truly believe that’s what life is about. Grab life by the horns, take action and discover your own brilliance. I’d love for you to have what you truly want in life too.

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‘Til next time
Success and Brilliance
Hazel

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Never stop moving forward and never give up.

2007-04-04T13:43:00.000-07:00

Last week I spoke about having to take action. There are two major things that have to happen in order to attract what we want in life. Have an attitude of Gratitude. Without being grateful for everything we already have in life, it becomes challenging to keep attracting what we want. The second one is Perseverance. Never stop moving forward and never give up.

I have been through major changes in my life at all ages. I started a completely new life when I moved to this country from the UK in my late 30’s. The next huge transition came when I decided to get divorced at the age of 43 after 25 years of marriage. Between 43 – 50 I went back to school, started a business, was diagnosed with a major lifelong autoimmune disorder and lost all my money. I had to start over.

I didn’t give up. I used all the negative experiences to learn from and I kept improving my mindset. In my mid 50-s through training I became a certified life coach and an NLP practitioner and started the business I’m in today. My mind set kept improving and I kept moving forward,

As I said last week, I will be conducting a FREE teleconference on Monday April 30th about the Law of Attraction. If you are interested in hearing more about this please go to www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com sign up for the Free Ecourse, The Astonishing Power of You and you will be added to our database. When the details go out for the teleconference you will be notified along with the rest of the subscribers.

I thank god for every negative experience I’ve ever had, they have been the greatest learning experiences and have allowed me to become who I am today. I never gave up. I persevered. Even when you think you can’t do it for even one more day, you can. Take baby steps, no one can jump from the bottom of the ladder to the top in one go.

Lots of people give up just about when they’re ready to have a breakthrough and they’re on the brink of success. Don’t let that happen to you. I am going to be 66 next week, I now have a wonderful, happy joyful life, am really passionate about what I do and what I teach and my life keeps expanding. You too can have whatever you want in life, it’s about discovering your own brilliance.

‘Til next time
Success and Brilliance
Hazel
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"The Secret"

2007-03-28T11:10:00.000-07:00

Hope everyone has been having a good week. I’ve been hearing lots of controversy about the movie and book on "The Secret." It seems that people think all they have to do is to think about what they want and it will happen. That is not how the Law of Attraction works. Nothing happens by osmosis. It isn’t hard, however it does take a little work.

Yes, it’s important to change your thinking in order to change your life. However, whether you want a better relationship, more free time, great wealth, a better job, or happiness in life, you have to take action.

When you think positively, put a plan of action into motion and keep moving forward you will attract all the good things you want in life.

I will be conducting a FREE teleconference on Monday April 30th about the Law of Attraction. If you are interested in hearing more about this please go to www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com sign up for the Free Ecourse, The Astonishing Power of You and you will be added to our database. When the details go out for the teleconference you will be notified along with the rest of the subscribers.

You were born to be brilliant and successful. It is your birthright to have happiness and success in life. The operative word being "your."

`Til next time
Success and Brilliance
Hazel
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Know Exactly What You Want in Life

2007-03-21T19:16:00.001-07:00

Most of us now know about ‘The Secret’ movie and what the Law of Attraction means. However, when I was speaking to a group this past week, one of the things that came up was that although they understood what it meant, they weren’t entirely sure how to make the changes so that they could attract exactly what they wanted in life.

As I said last week, the first thing that has to happen is to know exactly what you want in life and how you want your life to look. Then you need to set intentions and very specific goals.

One of the most important things that you need to become aware of are the words that you are using. How we speak is what we think!

If you have created your vision, set your intentions, created great goals and of course are taking action and things are still not happening, your subconscious and conscious mind is probably not in alignment.

To positively attract what you want in life, both areas of your mind need to be working together. There are a number of ways to do this, especially if it’s wealth and success in business that you want to create.

We are very excited at Mind Mastery that our new website www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com is now active and that our new product for financial empowerment will be released May 1st. Check the website for details.

In the meantime, think before you speak to make sure that the words you use are positive so that the energy you put out into the universe allows you to become like a magnet to attract what you want.

We’d love to hear from you and to know how your life is becoming if you are using the law of attraction.

‘Til next time
Hazel

What seeds will you plant this year?

2007-03-13T14:43:00.001-07:00

The official date for the first day of spring is March 21st, however now that the clocks have sprung forward, (for those of you that might not remember which way the clocks change, spring forward, fall, backward) here in Southern California spring seems to have definitely begun. The sun is shining, the days are clear and it’s very warm.

New beginnings are not reserved just for the beginning of each year, spring is a very good time to begin something new. New thinking, new goals, new successes.

I always think that life is much like a garden. You decide what you want to grow, you plant the seeds, then tend to it carefully and you get a beautiful, joyful garden full of color and light.

If you haven’t yet decided what you want to attract this year, now is a good time to start.
The first thing to decide is what you really want in life. How do you want your life to look? I mean that quite literally. Most people only ‘think’ they know what they want and how they want their lives to look, however when digging a little deeper with clients, there’s a much bigger picture than, “I want to be happy,” “I want success,” “I want peace,” “I want more money.”

If there was nothing standing in your way, what kind of a picture would you create. Create a vision, then set goals, think positively and watch all the wonderful things you happen that you attract into your life.

For more information on vision building and goal setting check out www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com.

Your birthright is to have all the success, happiness, wealth and joy you want in life. Create a life of absolute brilliance.

‘Til next time
Hazel

Be Careful what you are Attracting

2007-02-28T18:46:00.001-08:00

I’d like to share something with you that will show how use “The Law of Attraction"
Can bring negatives into our lives.

I pulled out of a parking lot on a wide street and because it said no left turn, I went down to the next opening where there was a store and I did a U turn. I didn’t go right onto the drive I just turned by the opening. As I was pulling out I noticed that across the road there was a motor cycle cop who had apparently just stopped someone for speeding. In my mind, I said, “well even though he’s finished, he’s still writing and it doesn’t say I can’t make a U turn so there’s no reason for him to stop me."

I’m sure you know what happened. He stepped out into the road, stopped me and gave me a ticket. I actually had no idea that you couldn’t make a U turn in what he said was a business district and there were no signs posted to say I couldn’t. However, the universe obviously wanted to teach me something and because I thought about him stopping me, it actually happened. So, for thinking it wouldn’t happen and focusing on it, I attracted it to me.

Be very careful what you are thinking. What we think expands and that’s what we attract.

Have a great week.
With Love and Gratitude

‘Til next time.

Hazel

The Law of Attraction

2007-02-21T13:43:00.000-08:00

Hi Everybody,

Well, we’ve now certainly heard about ‘The Secret.” For those of you that might possibly have not heard about it you can go to www.thesecret.tv and there you will find all the information you would like. However, to bring it down to basics it’s about the principles of The Law of Attraction and how what we focus on is what we attract.

This week I’m going to share with you an excerpt from “The voice of Knowledge” by Don Miguel Ruiz which will bring it into focus another way.

“Before I was born in this physical body, a whole society of storytellers was already here. The story was ongoing and from their story I learned how to create my own. The storytellers who are here before us teach us how to be human.

First they tell us what we are – a boy or a girl – then they tell us who we are, and who we should or shouldn’t be. They teach us how to be a proper woman, a decent woman, A strong man, a brave man.

They give us a name, an identity and they tell us the the role that we are playing in their story. They prepare us to live in a human jungle, to compete with one another, to control one another, to impose our will, to fight against our own kind.

Of course I believed what the storytellers told me. Why would I not believe them? They filled me with knowledge and I used that knowledge to copy their style and create my art in a similar way.”

If you’re not where you want to be in business or in life look at the stories you might be carrying in your head. What are you telling yourself about you? Are you saying “I can’t” instead of “I can,” or “I’m not good enough” instead of “I’m great” or “I don’t deserve to have what I want.” Instead of “I deserve to have all the wealth, Joy and abundance that I want, it is my birthright.

Everything in life is about the way we think. Change your thinking and you will Absolutely change your life. Any questions, don’t hesitate to post a comment.

‘Til next time

Hazel

The Secret is Out, Are you Using it?

2007-02-12T14:32:00.001-08:00

Happy Valentines week. Whether you have a partner in life or not, you don’t have to be alone on Valentines day. Buy yourself some flowers, enjoy a nice meal with family or friends, have fun. Love you and who you are. You are always going to be the greatest romance you will ever have. Romance and celebrate yourself.

It’s been on Ellen, it’s been on Oprah and on Larry King, are you making it work for you too.

The Secret is the Law of Attraction. As you know, I’ve talked about this before and I intend to talk much more about it. My passion in life is teaching others how to achieve their goals and dreams. I know what it’s like to work hard and not achieve what you want. When I learned how to use The Secret, my whole life changed. If you are not where you want to be in life, change it. You have the power and it’s your choice.

As much as some people won’t like hearing this, we really do create everything that happens to us in life through the energy we put out into the universe with our own thinking. When we change the way we think, we change our lives.

Energy flows where attention goes. Think big. Be outrageous. Decide what you really want in life, think positively and watch the magic happen.

Any questions or thoughts you might have, we’d love to hear from you, please post your comments.

Have a wonderful, bright and joyful week.

‘Til next time.

Hazel

SUCCESS AND IT’S DIFFERENT FACES

2007-01-16T11:34:00.001-08:00

I’m in the midst of recording and producing a new product and coaching program and it’s been a little hectic. I hope that you will watch for details of this fabulous new product that will empower you to create a six figure income in 2 years or less and huge success in all areas of life.

I was watching a little of the Golden Globe awards tonight and happened to catch the upcoming new star America Ferrera as she won for best actress in Ugly Betty. In her speech she talked about how you don’t have to be thin and beautiful on the outside to create what you want in life. So right on, I actually clapped. If you haven’t seen the show, check it out, it’s really great, clever, edgy, funny and heartwarming.

It isn’t important what race, color, religion, size, education or background you have, you deserve to have all the wealth, happiness, abundance and joy in life that you want. This is your birthright. Don’t let the messages in your head, the mind chatter that can get in the way, at the wrong times, steal your dreams. Create your own dream. By who you want to be.

If you change negative thinking to positive thinking and take the necessary action, you can attract in to your life whatever you want. Money, happiness, abundance, great relationships. I know, I’ve been there. Go for it, you deserve it.

If you’d like to hear more about how to do this and about the Law of Attraction post a reply.

‘Til next time.

Peace and Laughter
Hazel