Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Is your Life a comedy or ??

Somebody recently asked me if I was to describe my life as a genre what would I say? Would it be a comedy, a grand drama perhaps, a coffee table book or……………

I’d never been asked to define my life this way. My first thought was, now that I’m where I am do I really want to know? Of course I do, that’s how we continue to learn and what an interesting way to take a look.

It took me a while to be able to relate my life to a genre and I’m sure this is going to be an ongoing process, however, I’m going to share what I already discovered and that’s what life is about. An exciting journey of discovery and perseverance.

The first 40 years of my life could certainly be called a chaotic tragic drama that was slowly unfolding. I had learned and been given every kind of negative role modeling and message I needed to live my life in a really dramatic, chaotic way.

In thinking about it more closely, if I was a fantastic writer it would probably make a fabulously interesting story, however I’m not and it would take too long so I’m just going to leave it at that. I will just say that I would hope that all children will live, learn and grow in a much healthier, loving environment than I did.

With each passing year my life became more interesting and often very challenging, yet it was also very exciting and I was learning things about myself and the world that I might never have done, if I’d lived a different kind of life. I was always hearing, “They say” and I’m still not sure who ‘they’ are. However, ‘they say’ that everything happens for a reason and today I truly believe it does.

By the time I was in my 40’s, life had really become more like an adventure comedy. Still chaotic but at least I could find humor in the situations I got into.

After being married for 25 years I was now in the unknown world of dating, overcoming who I thought I was and creating who I really was, meaning the authentic me. Going through the dating scene as you get older can definitely be made into a chaotic romantic comedy film.

Today in my 60’s, the genre I would put my life into would be an interesting humorous coffee table book, something that anyone would pick up, find something they could relate to and learn from. What I learned from doing this little exercise is that if you keep moving forward, persevere, find wonderful mentors and don’t allow fear to hold you back you can create anything in life that you want.

That’s the message I most want to convey from this. Never ever give up. It doesn’t matter how old you are, it’s never too late for anything.

I still learn every day. I still reach higher both personally and professionally. I’m much more careful who I allow into my life and I surround myself with positive thinking people. My life is an ever evolving dream that is absolutely wonderful, peaceful and happy.

I have every intention of living until I’m over 100 which means I still have nearly half my life left to live. I don’t worry about what will happen tomorrow or next week, I only know that even when it’s frustrating at times there’s always a funny side if I look and the only day that counts is the one I’m living right now. I make a point of doing or watching something each day that makes me laugh and through it all I survived, became stronger and I found my passion, teaching other women how to become all they deserve to be.

I encourage you to answer the question for yourself. However old you are at present this is a question worth answering. If you had to give your life a genre, what would it be? Be honest because if you’re not, the only person you fool is you. The answer will allow you to make new choices if you’re not where you want to be.

Whatever genre you see yourself as, you’re a brilliant light in this world, let the brilliance shine.

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Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Do You Focus or Fold?

Everywhere I go recently it seems that someone is talking about balance and focus. I keep hearing how challenging it is to stay balanced and focused on a daily basis and I can certainly relate to that.

Because I have a home office, like so many coaches, it’s very easy to fold instead of focusing. What I mean by that is, there you are moving through your day and doing your best to get all the things done that you might have on a list. You managed to get the first thing finished and now you’re on action #2, when suddenly you think about something completely different and before you know it, you’ve totally folded what you’re in the midst of, it’s now on the shelf and you’re moving over to the next thing. Now you have one unfinished project and another that you might or might not finish before you have a thought about something else.

If you want to have balance in your life, one of the best things to do is to stay focused on one thing at a time. Most women can multi-task, yet it’s actually more time consuming than focusing and getting one thing finished at a time.

This is what Personal Development consultant Jeanie Marshall writes about balance. She can be reached at http://www.mhmail.

“Achieving a state of balance is not a final destination; instead it is an ongoing and evolving process. Imbalance is an aspect of balance. Being in a state of balance every second all day long is not likely or even desirable. It is more important to notice when you are in a state of balance and when you are not, than to expect to “always” be in a state of balance.

Your energy changes all through the day, and is supposed to. The more often it changes, the more you can keep finding your state of equilibrium, and the more skilled you become at being able to return to a state of balance, which immediately changes. To understand balance, you must become sensitive to your own energy, your own feelings, and your own life.”

Having balance in life will allow for you to have many more stress free days and also allow you to stay more centered. However, as Jeanie says, “it is an ongoing and evolving process.” Don’t expect this to happen overnight or every second of every day, learn to notice the difference between balance and imbalance in your life and become aware of your energy. This like most things is a learned skill.

‘Til Next Time
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