Wednesday, June 27, 2007

March To Your Own Drummer

Last week I took a real vacation, something I haven’t done for a number of years. I went to a beautiful family resort/spa with all my family including my six grandchildren, who range in age from 3 years to six years old. I played relaxed, & read great books. A really great treat for me. Especially being around the children for a whole week. It also allowed me the opportunity to see how kids re-act to other people.

At this age they still march to their own drummer. Although, they heeded what their parents said, when it came to what other kids wanted they didn’t stand still for saying yes just to be liked. From the youngest to the oldest they went with what they wanted to do without worrying about the reaction of their peers or for that matter adults.

I was thinking what a pity it is that somewhere between 5 – 10 years old, we tend to lose the ability to ‘go for it’ for ourselves. We start to play the record of the ‘you should’, you must, ‘you have to.’ And we start to conform with what we think society wants. We drift into what I call the “pleasing syndrome.” Often people do this for many years, sometimes their whole lives. This really dilutes inner power and diminishes energy and the ability to attract what you really want in life.

Look at the first two principles in the 28 principles of attraction written by Thomas Leonard.

1. The Importance of YOU. Without you there is nothing and Attraction isn’t possible. Make sure you take care of yourself first. Not to the Detriment of others and don’t get stuck in ego, this isn’t attractive.

Attraction works in the present, not in the future. If you’re dragging things from your past or afraid of what might happen in the future, you won’t attract What you want in the NOW.

Are you pleasing yourself or are you stuck in pleasing other people and saying yes even when it doesn’t really work for you because you want people to think more highly of you, to think you’re nice, to like you etc. etc.

I know what it’s like because many years ago I was stuck in that pattern. What I discovered when I finally found the courage to march to my own drummer was that people respected me much more when I stood in integrity and set boundaries for myself. Those that didn’t like it were not meant to be in my life.

Always march to your own drummer and have respect for yourself.

‘Til next Time

To your Success and Brilliance

Monday, June 11, 2007

Fear or Fun!!

I spent a lot of time this weekend around young children and animals and it gave me pause for thought! Young kids have lots of fun, they are not yet immersed in fear. Dogs have fun, they sleep a lot and they are usually at peace. (I don’t have dogs so I share my daughter’s. The photo is one of my grand-dogs Oreo taking a break from running around with the kids.)

I watched my 5 year old grandson receive a trophy from his little league team in baseball, they weren’t fearful as they ran up and down the court with their little faces focused on getting a ball in the net, they were having fun and learning a little about the art of competition.

I was watching a roomful of children at my son’s twins 4th birthday party, (I have 2 sets of twin grandchildren), climbing up what they call bouncy’s. These contraptions were at least 7 times as high as each child. There they were climbing up and over and happily sliding down. They had no fear, they were having fun and once at the bottom, they couldn’t wait to climb back up to slide down again from this huge height.

We as adults have all the ingrained messages that have been recorded in our minds over the years, consequently, most people are not at peace, often don’t sleep well, get mired in fear and doubt and don’t have nearly enough fun.

You can change that if you choose to! We are at choice to live our lives however we want. What choice have you made recently?

Do you have any fear and doubt that you allow to hold you back in any way in life?
Are you living the life that you have designed or just getting through the days however they happen!

One of my greatest joys in my coaching business is when I see people start to break up the limiting conversations they are having with themselves. The mind chatter that goes on, the talk that brings up the fear and doubt.

If there was absolutely nothing standing in your way, no financial challenges, no doubt, fear or anything else, how would you design your life? What would it look like? We are half way through the year, this is a good time to take stock of where you are and if you are not living the life you want, whether it’s professionally or personally, it’s time to do something about it!

I’d love to hear from you if you have any questions or comments. Especially, if something has made you stop and think and you are making changes in your life.

Have a great week.

‘Til next time

Wednesday, June 6, 2007

Expand Your Vision to Attract More

Jim Rohn said, "We all have two choices, we can make a living or we can design a life."

Of course we all want to have enough money to pay the bills, keep a roof over our head and eat. However, if we play a bigger game and take more action the possibilities are endless.

I teach my clients not to just make a living but to gain the confidence to 'design' the life of their dreams.

We know that based on the Law of Attraction, what we focus on is what we attract. So, what happens if we think we're following the law of attraction and we’re not getting the results? There's always a reason!

Over the 25 years that I've been teaching this subject and from my own experience, I have learned this secret. We have to be in alignment on a conscious and subconscious level with our thinking. From what I have seen, I believe that more often than not, this is not happening and people are not aware of the barriers they are creating.

Unfortunately, all too often people don't realize that the actions they take, what they are consciously thinking and what is really going on at a deeper more fundamental level, is not the same.

If you have all the plans in place, are taking action and still not getting where you want to be, you have to be more willing to dig a little deeper.

  • Do you honestly, deep down, believe that you can reach your goals?
  • Have you set them so that the laws of the universe can work with and for you?
To make the changes, to overcome fear, doubt and mind chatter, there are many options. You could hire a coach, take a class, read a book, listen to CD programs etc. However you make the changes, I highly encourage you to take action so that you can take down the barriers, think outside of the box and achieve the life of your dreams.

‘Til next time

P.S. Although details have not yet been released, I am starting a 4 week teleclass that will specifically address these challenges. The teleclass will be limited to 20 people so there will be time to give individual attention if needed. If you are interested in hearing full details about this as soon as it is announced, please send an e.mail to

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