Friend or Foe?

Which one are you to yourself? Here we are a little more than half way through the year. A very important year for the US and a very important year for you too! Why is that you say? How about something really simple like it’s time to check whether you are on track for the year, whether you are being your friend or are working against yourself?

This time of the year is a great time to rate your professional and/or personal life. If you use the wheel and follow the instructions you will know whether you are on track for the year with balance, success, finances, relationships and life in general.

Directions: rate yourself in each category on a scale of 1-10, with 1 the lowest at the wheel's center and 10 the highest at the outer edge. Rate yourself in terms of current satisfaction by drawing a line across from spoke to spoke.

Then answer some questions for yourself:
1. Looking at the way I rated the wheel what does my life look like? Is it balanced, am I happy with everything the way it is?
2. If this were the wheel on a car would it run smoothly?

If your life is not looking the way you want it at this half way point in the year, I encourage you to make some changes so that by the time the end of the year arrives, it looks more like the life you really want.

‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

Take Charge of Your Own Destiny

Whether personally or professionally you can either be at cause and create the life you want or you can be at the effect of anything and everything that life happens to throw at you. You’d be really surprised at how many people live on the effect side of life and don’t understand why their days are not joyful and happy. It’s up to you to take charge of your own destiny.

You have the most powerful tool you will ever need in the 3” between your ears!
Namely your mind! It creates just about everything that happens to you in life.

Train your mind to CHOOSE the life you want so that any old negative messages sitting in your subconscious get zapped. It’s a bit like taking an old computer program and changing it for a new one.

Where are you focusing? What is your attitude about your life personally and/or professionally? Are you focusing on what you don’t have, lack of time, money etc.
What you focus on expands. Focus on what you do have, what you can do, what you want from life.

Start changing the way you think by becoming conscious of the words you use. The words you use will tell you how you are thinking on a subconscious level.

Use words like I can, I want to, I believe. Stop using words like try and but. How do you try and sit in a chair? You either do or you don’t. When you say but after a sentence you are immediately negating what came before it. Start using the word ‘and’ instead. Much more powerful!

Do some of these things and watch what happens in your life. Do your best to be as disciplined as possible about this. When you change your thinking, you can really change your life and there are absolutely no limits. Go for what you want. Live your life fearlessly from choice.

‘Til Next time
To Your Success and Brilliance


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How Does Your World Look?

Whether in your personal or professional life you want to be living a life that you really love.

Are you living the life you envisioned 5 years ago? What are you envisioning for your life and/or business 5 years from now?

The past few weeks have been very interesting and I’ve had the honor of actually connecting with a lot of people who receive my Monday Motivator and newsletter who until now I didn’t know.

I’ve had so much fun and joy talking to people who are interested in my “Say Yes to YOU” coaching programs. I’ve listened to many people talk about their goals and dreams and quite a few who up until now have not been saying yes to themselves and are ready to change their world so they can achieve their ultimate dreams.

I hope your world looks the way you really want it to, if it doesn’t I highly encourage you to do something about it. Take a firm stand and say Yes to YOU.
Your really do deserve to live each day with passion and joy.

‘Til Next time
As Always
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Happy July 4th

Hi Everyone,

I have some really wonderful new “Say Yes To YOU” Programs being launched this week and because it’s a short week something had to give so my apologies for not writing last week and for the few words this week.

What I do want to say is please remember the Law of Cause and Effect. Your life is created by the way you think, the actions you take and the Attitude you have. Take responsibility if something happens that is caused by you. Don’t get defensive or angry, own up and own it. Make each day a positive, fun experience whatever you are doing in life.

Have a wonderful July 4th and I will write more next week.

‘Til next time
As Always
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you are interested in the new programs please go to www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/you.html and you will find all the details.

Is life really like Sex and The City?

Last Sunday my daughter and I took ourselves to see this very much touted movie.

What came across loud and clear in both the TV series and the movie was the story about 4 friends who stuck together through thick and thin and that part of the story was lovely and how all friendships need to be. If only the story had been more about that it would probably have been very enjoyable.

Unfortunately, although there were a couple of laughs, not only was it long and rather boring there were a few scenes that would have been better off in a porn movie. What I’m writing comes without any kind of judgment, so please don’t throw arrows at me yet!

I know many women are going to disagree with me and that’s OK, we are all entitled to our own opinions and I’d love to hear some of yours.

Are real women like these four? Is New York really a hive of very needy women?

Somehow I don’t think so!

This is really what the movie portrayed as well as friendship. In the TV series it was 4 needy women looking for love in all the wrong places. This is initially how Miranda got pregnant. Charlotte desperately wanted to be married and looked until after changing many things in her life, she actually found the ‘right’ man.

Although, it finally ended up OK, (don’t want to give away the ending if you haven’t seen it) in the TV show Carrie couldn’t detach from Big long enough to give herself the chance of someone really great loving her so she continually went in and of the relationship with Big, which would actually be considered ‘really dysfunctional.’ Poor Samantha was really the neediest of the four. Terrified of commitment, she wanted money, attention and sex and sex and sex. When someone needs that much sex to fill them up, it’s called an addiction.

I realize this is a movie and is supposed to be for entertainment however I’ve also read some of the comments that men have left on various sites and their comments about women based on this movie are not pretty. I’d hate for any teenage girl to see this movie and think this is what she has to look forward to in her 30’s and 40’s.

So, why am I writing about this in a self growth blog for women? Because it’s important! If you relate to any one of them, especially during their TV show years don’t stay stuck. I know what it’s like to be needy, to go in and out of the wrong relationships continually looking for love to fill the emptiness.

It took me 10 years of personal work to find myself. When I did, I realized there was really only one person I absolutely ‘needed’ in my life. Me!!

Would I like a man in my life? It would be very nice if he was the right man, however I’m also OK if I don’t have a man in my life. I finally fell in love with me in a very healthy way. I came to realize that I am not defined by a man, a car, money, parents, children, a house or anything I’m only defined by who I am.

That’s why I wrote this. If you have issues around relationships or with yourself please get some kind of help. Fall in love with yourself first and you will no longer make the wrong choices. You don’t have to settle just so you won’t be alone. You deserve to be loved for the beautiful woman you are. Enjoy your life, have fun, laugh with friends and treat yourself with the dignity and respect you deserve. You are a brilliant light in this world.

‘til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. If you live in or around the LA area on June 25th, I’m facilitating a 2 hour workshop at the Bodhi Tree on Melrose titled, “Say Yes To You” – Stop Living on the Sidelines and step into the Game of Life. 7.30p.m. – 9.30 p.m. You can throw your arrows at me then if you attendJ
For more information go to http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/yes.htm

Make yourself number one.

Having spent 4 days exhibiting my best selling book at Book Expo. America it’s been a very interesting, energizing yet exhausting couple of weeks which is also the reason there was no copy for the blog last week.

The one thing that came across very clearly from talking to the dozens of people who stopped at the booth, is that women are still not totally OK with making themselves number One.

Sometimes when I first start working with clients, they find it very strange to think about putting themselves and their needs at the top of the list. Make yourself number one. Obviously not to the detriment of some one-else. However, you will be more effective, energized and productive if you take care of yourself first.

Whether you’re a working professional, a stay at home mother, work and manage a family or you are a working single mother, I highly encourage you to “Say Yes to YOU” first. Your business won’t fall apart, your family won’t go without, your house won’t collapse if it’s not perfect.

Take small steps to start. Five minutes a day to just sit quietly, light a candle, read a book, meditate or whatever it is you truly want to do with the time. After a week expand to ten minutes and so on until you are actually taking at least 30 minutes every day to just be with you.

If I had known that it was OK for me to take time for me when I had a family at home I would have saved myself many stressful days. Now, no matter what, I take at least 30 minutes a day that is set aside without any interruptions, just for me. Give it a try. You deserve it.

“til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS. For those people who live in or near Los Angeles, on June 25th, I will be facilitating a 2 hour workshop ”Say Yes To You” Stop Living on the Sidelines” at the Bodhi Tree on Melrose Avenue. Space is limited. Advance reservations $20. If you are interested in attending please email info@theastonishingpowerofyou.com and you will be at the top of the list.

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Think about what you do have.

I hope everyone had a really super Memorial day weekend. I don’t know what it’s like in your part of the country/world, however for all the fact that everyone here in the US is complaining about the cost of gas being more than $4 a gallon, there were cars galore on the freeway.

Although it may seem not at times, we really do have things great here in the US. As with everything else it’s about perception. Yes, gas has gone up, however in Europe they are paying the equivalent of $8 a gallon and food is twice as expensive as it is here. How about we all look again at what we do have, not at what we don’t have.

I’m off to exhibit this week at Book Expo. America which is in Los Angeles and will be there from Thursday 29th – June 1st. It should be fun, exciting and exhausting and I’m really looking forward to it. Thank god they don’t allow smoking in any of the public places in LA any more so at least the air won’t be clouded with smoke.

I have a couple of really great new hypnosis CD’s if anybody is interested in increasing their wealth, zapping negative thinking or if you do happen to smoke and would really like to stop there’s a great stop smoking CD too. Check them out at www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/hypnosis. and you will find information at the bottom of the page.

Have a great week.
‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance


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