Are you a Worry Wart?

I know the title might not sound very attractive, I’m a Brit and that’s a very British expression. It’s also very to the point. Are you a worrier? Do you think about most things like it’s a catastrophe? Do you more often than not feel stressed and as we Brits would say “out of sorts?”

If this is how you feel and think, you’re making a choice to allow yourself to be this way. I probably wouldn’t be too far off if I said that about 80% of people in most countries think this way a lot of the time. Especially, with things the way they are in the world today.

I truly understand. I used to worry about everything, catastrophize most situations and walked around so stressed I had headaches every day. I didn’t change these patterns until I was in my 40’s. However, when I did, my life didn’t just change, it transformed my life and my thinking. Change is inevitable daily, transformation is a choice. Choice = power.

One of my clients, Ann, on her coaching calls, would continually complain. She didn’t have time to get assignments finished because……… It was Jim’s fault she was always late for appointments, etc. etc. I don’t have time, I’m always so busy. Why is it so difficult, so and so doesn’t have these problems etc. etc.

Being busy does not necessarily mean she was being productive, which is what sent her to me in the first place.

Because she was living her days this way, she was continually anxious, always worried and lived with constant stress.

I help people to change the way they think about all areas of their lives. She hired me to help her to earn more money, have more productive days and be more balanced in her life. I love my clients and I’m patient, I also want them to succeed.
I don’t want clients to waste money if they’re not committed to taking action.

First, she had to get honest and tap into the part of her that she was hiding. What was the payoff to not achieving what she said she wanted? What was she afraid of? How honest was she being with herself? What kind of negative messages did she have recorded in her mind?

Like me, most people get there messages from childhood. You can’t blame your childhood forever. As adults you have to take responsibility. This is part of
The Law of Cause and Effect.

Every cause has an effect; every effect has a cause. Thank God as human beings we have choice.

If you choose to live at the effect of life, you will always make excuses and find reasons why things don’t work out, why you don’t have enough money. You will always justify and blame others for lack in any area. This was initially how Ann was living.

Depending on the childhood messages we receive, many of us have gone through this phase at one time or another. The challenge is what happens when we stay in this mindset as adults.

Living on this side of the equation usually creates feelings of low self worth and feelings of powerlessness. Often feeling sorry for yourself and perhaps comparing what you don’t have to what others do have. Being part of the “ain’t it awful” crowd without even realizing it.

Having real power means that you are willing to live on the cause side of the equation, you are willing to take charge of your life and take responsibility for creating your life the way you really want it, based on your own actions. When you live life this way, it empowers you and you open yourself to the universe so that it works with you in attracting what you want in life.

Change doesn’t happen overnight, so patience is very important when going through this process. Like Ann, you have to be willing to look at the part you play in attracting the things that are and have happened in your life. It’s necessary to say if I wasn’t hiding, if I got really honest with myself, what action would I take?

Today, six months later, Ann is well on her way to financial freedom and great success and she thinks very differently. That doesn’t mean she’s perfect, or that she doesn’t slip, like all of us, she slips back into the thinking from time to time, however, it’s not about never slipping, it’s about how long you stay there. She learned how she could zap negative thinking in seconds. You can do this too.
Live your life to the fullest and live it the way you dream about.
(Real client, different name for confidentiality).

‘Til next time
To Your Brilliance and Success




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Thinking Outside the Box

I realized this past few weeks in listening to people around me, just how many people don’t really think outside of the box. Mainly, because they don’t realize they are locked in a box of their own creation. You are not in jail, there are no bars other than those that you might create yourself.

This is one of the times when imagination plays a great part. If you were told that stepping outside of the box, guaranteed that you could create a different kind of future, would you take action?

After you have read this, close your eyes, imagine yourself living exactly the kind of life that you want. Imagine you can feel the breath of a breeze on your face, the warmth of the sun, the smell of newly mowed grass, the sound of laughter, feelings of excitement and pleasure and sit with this for a few minutes. Put everything in the picture that you would really like and really feel the feelings of having this. Take a deep breathe and open your eyes. How did it feel? Did it feel powerful, pleasurable, joyful, frightening, adventurous or whatever feelings you may have had.

You can have everything you want in life because you already have all you need to create it right there in your mind. There really is an unlimited supply, you can have it if you can conceive, understand and believe it.

Step outside of the box, it’s OK to feel a little fear and it’s OK to get off course. Life is not about being perfect, it’s just about being. Air planes are continually off course, however because a plane is programmed to know exactly where it’s going, it usually arrives at its destination. You can do the same. Decide what you want, step outside of the box and create the life of your dreams, you deserve it.

‘Til next time
To Your Success and Brilliance




PS. If you haven’t done so already, I invite you to sign up for my FR*E teleseminar on Tuesday July 31st 2007 at 6p.m. Eastern. – ZAP NEGATIVITY – TURN THE DOUBTS OF YESTERDAY INTO TOMORROW’S SUCCESS. Sign up NOW, this class is filling fast. http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/zap_negativity.html

Negativity can be made to work for You.

I’ve written about many different topics in the months gone by. Most of them are connected to attracting what you want from the Universe.

There really is no big secret to being able to do this, however it does take certain techniques to allow you to make sure that your subconscious and conscious are working in alignment.

If you are taking action, thinking positively and are still not attracting what you want, stop whatever you are doing and ask yourself whether you really believe on every level that you can achieve wealth, success and joy in life.

Your subconscious is a tricky little mischief and is very powerful. Is there even a teeny bit of doubt or fear? Even if there is, there are ways to take the doubt and use it to work for you instead of against you.

You are invited to join me for a FR^E teleseminar on Tuesday, July 31st, 2007 at 6p.m. Eastern time – Zap Your Negativity – Turn Yesterday’s Doubt into Tomorrow’s Success. This will be a very popular call. There are only a limited number of lines. For more information and to sign up go to: http://www.theastonishingpowerofyou.com/zap_negativity.html

‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

Clean up your inner trash!

We all have mind messages, the stories that play in our heads, usually put there by other people. I was watching a movie, The Peaceful Warrior,” this past weekend and I was again reminded of the fact that until we clean up the ‘trash’ in our minds, it’s very challenging to be able to attract what we want in life.

If you have old habits and behaviors that are holding you back, clear them away. When I was in private practice, I used to use a visualization with clients that had them seeing a garbage truck carrying all the old messages away. Clearing out old mindsets is not nearly as challenging as it sounds, it’s just a matter of setting an intention and working on it. “The battles we fight are on the inside.” Clear out the trash and there won’t be any more battles.

You’re human, you might make mistakes and that’s OK, that’s how you learn. Change the way you think and you can change your life.

Have a wonderful July 4th.

‘Til next time

March To Your Own Drummer

Last week I took a real vacation, something I haven’t done for a number of years. I went to a beautiful family resort/spa with all my family including my six grandchildren, who range in age from 3 years to six years old. I played relaxed, & read great books. A really great treat for me. Especially being around the children for a whole week. It also allowed me the opportunity to see how kids re-act to other people.

At this age they still march to their own drummer. Although, they heeded what their parents said, when it came to what other kids wanted they didn’t stand still for saying yes just to be liked. From the youngest to the oldest they went with what they wanted to do without worrying about the reaction of their peers or for that matter adults.

I was thinking what a pity it is that somewhere between 5 – 10 years old, we tend to lose the ability to ‘go for it’ for ourselves. We start to play the record of the ‘you should’, you must, ‘you have to.’ And we start to conform with what we think society wants. We drift into what I call the “pleasing syndrome.” Often people do this for many years, sometimes their whole lives. This really dilutes inner power and diminishes energy and the ability to attract what you really want in life.

Look at the first two principles in the 28 principles of attraction written by Thomas Leonard.

1. The Importance of YOU. Without you there is nothing and Attraction isn’t possible. Make sure you take care of yourself first. Not to the Detriment of others and don’t get stuck in ego, this isn’t attractive.

2. UNHOOK YOURSELF FROM THE FUTURE:
Attraction works in the present, not in the future. If you’re dragging things from your past or afraid of what might happen in the future, you won’t attract What you want in the NOW.

Are you pleasing yourself or are you stuck in pleasing other people and saying yes even when it doesn’t really work for you because you want people to think more highly of you, to think you’re nice, to like you etc. etc.

I know what it’s like because many years ago I was stuck in that pattern. What I discovered when I finally found the courage to march to my own drummer was that people respected me much more when I stood in integrity and set boundaries for myself. Those that didn’t like it were not meant to be in my life.

Always march to your own drummer and have respect for yourself.

‘Til next Time

To your Success and Brilliance

Fear or Fun!!

I spent a lot of time this weekend around young children and animals and it gave me pause for thought! Young kids have lots of fun, they are not yet immersed in fear. Dogs have fun, they sleep a lot and they are usually at peace. (I don’t have dogs so I share my daughter’s. The photo is one of my grand-dogs Oreo taking a break from running around with the kids.)

I watched my 5 year old grandson receive a trophy from his little league team in baseball, they weren’t fearful as they ran up and down the court with their little faces focused on getting a ball in the net, they were having fun and learning a little about the art of competition.

I was watching a roomful of children at my son’s twins 4th birthday party, (I have 2 sets of twin grandchildren), climbing up what they call bouncy’s. These contraptions were at least 7 times as high as each child. There they were climbing up and over and happily sliding down. They had no fear, they were having fun and once at the bottom, they couldn’t wait to climb back up to slide down again from this huge height.

We as adults have all the ingrained messages that have been recorded in our minds over the years, consequently, most people are not at peace, often don’t sleep well, get mired in fear and doubt and don’t have nearly enough fun.

You can change that if you choose to! We are at choice to live our lives however we want. What choice have you made recently?

Do you have any fear and doubt that you allow to hold you back in any way in life?
Are you living the life that you have designed or just getting through the days however they happen!

One of my greatest joys in my coaching business is when I see people start to break up the limiting conversations they are having with themselves. The mind chatter that goes on, the talk that brings up the fear and doubt.

If there was absolutely nothing standing in your way, no financial challenges, no doubt, fear or anything else, how would you design your life? What would it look like? We are half way through the year, this is a good time to take stock of where you are and if you are not living the life you want, whether it’s professionally or personally, it’s time to do something about it!

I’d love to hear from you if you have any questions or comments. Especially, if something has made you stop and think and you are making changes in your life.

Have a great week.

‘Til next time

Expand Your Vision to Attract More

Jim Rohn said, "We all have two choices, we can make a living or we can design a life."

Of course we all want to have enough money to pay the bills, keep a roof over our head and eat. However, if we play a bigger game and take more action the possibilities are endless.

I teach my clients not to just make a living but to gain the confidence to 'design' the life of their dreams.

We know that based on the Law of Attraction, what we focus on is what we attract. So, what happens if we think we're following the law of attraction and we’re not getting the results? There's always a reason!

Over the 25 years that I've been teaching this subject and from my own experience, I have learned this secret. We have to be in alignment on a conscious and subconscious level with our thinking. From what I have seen, I believe that more often than not, this is not happening and people are not aware of the barriers they are creating.

Unfortunately, all too often people don't realize that the actions they take, what they are consciously thinking and what is really going on at a deeper more fundamental level, is not the same.

If you have all the plans in place, are taking action and still not getting where you want to be, you have to be more willing to dig a little deeper.

• Do you honestly, deep down, believe that you can reach your goals?
• Have you set them so that the laws of the universe can work with and for you?
  

To make the changes, to overcome fear, doubt and mind chatter, there are many options. You could hire a coach, take a class, read a book, listen to CD programs etc. However you make the changes, I highly encourage you to take action so that you can take down the barriers, think outside of the box and achieve the life of your dreams.

‘Til next time



P.S. Although details have not yet been released, I am starting a 4 week teleclass that will specifically address these challenges. The teleclass will be limited to 20 people so there will be time to give individual attention if needed. If you are interested in hearing full details about this as soon as it is announced, please send an e.mail to Sheri@mindmasterycoaching.com.

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